Have you ever heard of a 'mood meter'?


The

mood meter

[1] is

a tool designed to recognize and measure one's emotions every day

.



The horizontal axis of the mood meter represents the degree of 'Pleasant' and the vertical axis represents the degree of 'Energy'. For example, if you are indifferent to everything because of low comfort and low vitality, or if you are sad or depressed, your emotion is '

blue

'. If you are in a state of low comfort but high vitality, a little nervous, irritable, or angry, your emotion today is '

red

'. If today's situation is high in comfort but low in vitality, calm and calm, with a soft smile on your face, your emotion is '

green

'. On the other hand, on a day of high comfort, high vitality, joy, happiness, and excitement, your sensitivity is '

yellow

'.



What color are you reading this today?


(If you want to see more details by matching the words and colors that express your feelings, refer to the table below!)


As social distancing is prolonged due to COVID-19 and more and more people are complaining about psychological difficulties,

the importance of

emotional intelligence

is being highlighted again.



'Emotional intelligence' is the ability to recognize and control one's own emotions and to recognize and respond to the emotions of others.

The concept was first introduced in the 1990s by Professor Peter Salovay, a professor of psychology at Yale University and the current president of Yale University, and Jack Mayer, a professor of psychology at the University of New Hampshire. It became an opportunity for the word 'emotional intelligence' to become known even to the public.


To learn more about 'emotional intelligence', the SBS Future Team

met with

Professor Mark Brackett

[2], the

director

of the

Emotional Intelligence Center

at

Yale University

and

the author

of

'Discovery of Emotions',

on the 26th.


Q. Hello? Last year, at SDF2020, 1,000 adult men and women across the country were asked how they would feel if they felt more psychological difficulties during the corona period. Then, 55% said they felt more anxious, 29% depressed, and 27% more isolated than before. The number of people experiencing psychological difficulties due to social distancing is increasing just by looking at our survey.



: Similar results were obtained from the US survey. Humans have an instinct to want to be socially connected. So when I can't, I feel anxious, depressed, and lonely. Due to COVID-19, people who had not previously been very interested in emotions suddenly became interested. Because they actually experienced emotions that they had never felt before. A lot of fathers come to me and say, "Mark, I didn't know the importance of emotional intelligence before, but now I know for sure. I have to work from home with children, cook, clean and teach. Bonnie, I need a strategy on how to manage my emotions.” A crisis situation turned into an opportunity in terms of emotional intelligence.



Q. So, if you want to re-understand and learn the importance of emotional intelligence, where do you start?



Emotional intelligence education conducted in school is "

Social and Emotional Learning

",

SEL

It is called. Emotional intelligence to teach in our centers related to five kinds of technology

to recognize emotions (Recognizing)

-

Understanding Emotions (Understanding)

-

Naming the feelings (Labeling)

-

to express emotion (Expressing)

-

to control emotions (Regulating)

letter of the English front It is

called

'RULER

'

after the

initials

. Currently, it is introduced as an educational program in 3,000 schools in the United States. And I learned through practical application that before teaching students, teachers should teach, and adults should teach. If teachers don't speak the language of emotional intelligence, they can't even teach them. Could you please ask me how I am feeling right now?


Q. How is your emotional state right now?



good. Isn't it customary to answer this way? This would be a meaningless response. I tell people that you need to give specific answers that feel more clunky. Talking about your feelings in this specific way can be a little intimidating for some people. Can I ask you again what's the status quo?



Q. How is your emotional state right now?



Anxious, scary, angry and hopeless. Do you know what I mean? If you thought my child answered this way, or if our team members answered this way, what would you do? But does not answering that way mean that there is no such feeling?



We're just not used to talking about emotions. Because people don't ask about their feelings, they don't really listen. In the process of asking and listening, you will be able to solve problems and be more supportive of each other. Now is the time to change. When emotions are suppressed, they also affect real health. When you can't share feelings like anxiety, stress, or worry with someone, where do they go? Laying down to sleep at night, I can't get rid of that thought... In English, it is expressed as 'eating emotions', but while suppressing emotions, instead of continuing to eat even though you are not hungry, those emotions will turn into anger and explode somewhere.

Adults should be good role models for children. Let's say you went home and, for example, had a difficult job at work. I had a fight with a colleague and things didn't go well. You may have said something hurtful to a colleague. When you arrive home in such a situation, your child may have already noticed the unusual in your facial expression. At that time, I called the child and said,

"Son, Dad, today was a bit difficult at work. I had a fight with a colleague and Dad said something he shouldn't have said. So I'm regretting it now, and I don't know how to apologize tomorrow to restore the relationship. I'm worried. That's why Dad may be a little different today. Please forgive me."

When a father says something like this, he can naturally give his son a great education.



First

, it teaches us that even when something doesn't go well, it's something we can share.


Second

, it is important to reflect on what one has done, and that I am a person who values ​​relationships between people and considers the views of others.


Third

, to let you know that dads can make mistakes, and that sometimes they do things that hurt others.


Fourth

, when you make such a mistake, you are a person who thinks about how to resolve conflicts.


fifth

, you will teach your child implicitly that you can share these difficult stories together. The methods in this example are all techniques of emotional intelligence.



We need to get used to these conversations.



But that doesn't mean we're always talking about emotions. However, I recommend that you wake up in the morning and check your emotional state before going to bed in the evening, and check your emotional state once in a while while working. How am I feeling now? Are you annoyed? Why? Why? Let's pause for a moment like this and look into your emotional state and its causes. Studies have shown that when you can better understand the causes of your emotions, you are relatively less affected by them. Because you see yourself more objectively.



Q. It is interesting to note in the book that 30-40% of the rapidly growing jobs currently require 'emotional intelligence' related skills in the '2030 Future Education Project'[3] conducted with Microsoft and McKinsey?



Even people who are less interested in your emotional intelligence will be interested if you show them scientific research results. These are things that have been proven by research.

First

, emotions direct attention. It's about choosing what to remember and learn.


Second

, it influences decision making.


Third

, it also affects social relationships.


Fourth

, help others better.


Fifth

, it helps you achieve results.



And working with managers with high emotional intelligence has proven to be less burnout, less frustrated, more inspired, and more creative. In fact, it has been found that when employees of companies have higher emotional intelligence, their organizational culture becomes healthier and their performance increases.



Q. This year, our team is also interested in what other leadership is needed after Corona?



There is an interesting study of leadership that has been done recently. Before the pandemic, emotional intelligence in interpersonal relationships was very important. In other words, before Corona, I told the staff, "I know you are going through this kind of hardship right now. I'll help you." It appears that you wanted a boss who could tell you a story. However, during the pandemic, employees who have managerial leaders who can control their emotions have higher job satisfaction and less burnout. In other words, there are two aspects to emotional intelligence. There are ways to help others and there are ways to take care of yourself. However, looking at the results of the study, in a difficult situation with high uncertainty and

It has

been found that employees want more

leaders who can manage their emotions and show 'resilience'

.


Q. As

'diversity'

becomes more important, are you interested in how

to get rid of the fear of

'unfamiliar and uncomfortable

'?



You have to be able to accept all your emotions.

There are no bad feelings.

All emotions are experiences.

First of all, it is important to be aware of that fact.

And 'anxiety' comes from 'uncertainty', and 'fear' is a reaction that appears when 'feeling in danger'.

Since each emotion comes from a different experience, it is important to know what kind of emotion it is and to name it appropriately.

Also, instead of being an 'emotion judge' who points out and criticizes other people's feelings, we

should become

'emotional scientists'

with compassion

.

Being an 'emotional scientist' means being curious and able to look into your own or others' emotions.

It's about getting in the mood to learn about your emotions

.

When we are in the learning phase, we don't feel a lot of anxiety or stress.

Because you are learning.

It sparks curiosity.

You have to deal with your emotions with that attitude.


Q. You mentioned that emotional intelligence is also important to become a good citizen. As a society we live in, why is it so important to be more aware of our emotions and believe in the power of emotional intelligence?



All levels of government and society, such as police officers, doctors, teachers, and service workers, should all be trained in emotional intelligence. We need to teach them empathy, teach them the skills to understand different perspectives, teach them the right words for emotions, and help them understand why they're feeling those feelings. In addition, we need to raise children who are interested in other people's feelings and are not too difficult to express their own feelings. You need to help them develop strategies to manage their emotions. This

emotional intelligence is an asset.



Emotional intelligence makes us healthier and more well-being, enabling us to create and maintain healthier relationships, and make better decisions. It makes you more creative and makes your dreams come true.

Think of it as

making you the best person

you can be.



When we value emotional intelligence and teach it more, we, as citizens, will encounter a new society we have never seen before.

At the end of the interview, I asked Professor Mark Brackett if there are any sectors in our society that need more 'emotional intelligence' in the post-corona era. Then Professor Brackett said that if real change is desired, real change will begin when leaders in all fields, from the government to the president, from CEOs of companies to schools, become more interested in emotional intelligence. Interest in emotional intelligence is because it is a change of value to choose a new way of life that is different from before.



How are you? Wouldn't you like to pay a little more attention to emotional intelligence starting today?



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[ 1] Mood Meter is designed based on the 'circular emotion model' developed by Boston College Professor James Russell. Professor Russell argued that there are two key elements of human emotions, 'Pleasant' and 'Energy', and only these two elements are sufficient to understand all emotional states. The mood meter was first used in 2004 by David Caruso and Peter Salavay in their book The Emotionally Intelligent Manager, and since then Caruso and Marc Brackett, director of the Center for Emotional Intelligence at Yale University, have used the tool for social and emotional learning. It was developed as the central axis of the system RULER (recognizing emotions - understanding emotions - naming emotions - expressing emotions - controlling emotions).



[2] Mark Brackett Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence Official Site https://www.marcbrackett.com/



[3] The class of 2030 and life-ready Learning: The technology imperative (A Summary report) https://info.microsoft. com/ww-landing-McKinsey-Class-Of-2030-Whitepaper.html?lcid=en-us


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