“He can't do it without me. He has such problems! ”Or:“ I just can't let her down there. ”As a therapist, I often hear sentences like this. Quite a few of my clients are extremely helpful people - and that's exactly what they don't get along with. That sounds paradoxical at first. After all, helping others is a very beautiful and well-recognized social quality. And not only that: helpfulness makes you happy. Helping someone else triggers the same happiness hormones in the brain as a piece of chocolate. Why is that? So willingness to help is in itself a good and also a healthy thing. However, this no longer applies when we turn other people's problems into our own problems.
Stefanie Stahl: How do you help properly?
2021-02-16T15:49:53.742Z
Helping others is nice and important - and can be annoying. For the psychologist Stefanie Stahl, in addition to the lack of distance to other people's problems, there are other reasons why this help is not always valued.
Source: welt