In "Sans Rendez-vous", the sexologist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc responds to Agnès, a listener who is surprised to see her friends praising masturbation when she never indulges in it.
For the specialist, this is a personal experience without any obligation.
Female sexuality has always been taboo, even more so when it was lonely.
However, the veil is gradually lifted on female masturbation.
While many women can live and express themselves freely about this practice, others do not embrace it.
Tuesday, in Sans rendez-vous, the sex therapist Catherine Blanc recalled that masturbation should promote self-discovery.
Thus it does not imply any obligation and does not necessarily have to be shared with the other.
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Agnes' question
"I know that my girlfriends in a relationship or not masturbate regularly, they say it's a kind of complementary sexuality that they cannot do without. Personally I never masturbate, am I normal?"
Catherine Blanc's response
Masturbation can be the answer to a question about yourself, to denote a desire to have fun with yourself or even to discover yourself.
But it is not necessarily felt the same in all women.
Is Masturbation Only For Singles?
No.
Masturbation is an erotic awakening between oneself and oneself, a response to a questioning on the subject of sexuality.
After having considered it taboo until recently, society has opened up this field of possibilities to women.
But it is not for all that a compulsory exercise: it is not a response to an injunction but a freedom.
Can it harm a couple's sexuality?
Female masturbation is a source of concern for many men: they fear that solitary pleasure is more fulfilling for women than couple sexuality.
As long as women were deaf to themselves, men presented themselves to them with all they could represent of fulfillment and self-discovery: they were sort of super heroes.
Since then, women have discovered and understood each other well.
They have the "instructions for use" of their operation, which can create a loss of reference points for men.
Yet they would be wrong to feel some form of worthlessness.
What we discover in masturbation is a story between oneself and oneself, where one is not encumbered with the other.
It's actually a whole different kind of sexuality.
Why does Agnès not feel this urge?
This is all the complexity of individual sexuality.
Regardless, it is completely normal to never masturbate.
Perhaps Agnes' sexuality simply finds its full development in a relationship with another.
Within a couple, should masturbation remain intimate?
This is not a secret that feeds into a form of guilt.
In any case, masturbation should not be assimilated to "complementary sexuality" which would make it a systematic response to frustration in the relationship.
Of course, masturbation can help during a short trip through the desert as a couple.
But above all, it must be seen as a discovery of oneself, a desire to have fun with oneself.