Daria Marx considers "terrible to never see someone who looks like you"

Feminist and anti-grossophobia activist Daria Marx in the studio of "20 Minutes", January 13, 2021, in Paris.

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Olivier Juszczak / 20 Minutes

She is a feminist activist, serial killer on social networks, and above all fights against grossophobia with the political Gras collective that she launched in 2016.

20 Minutes

interviewed Daria Marx (a nickname, she protects her identity), one figures of the struggle for fat people.

Latest feat of arms: the dezincification of the program

Opération Renaissance

, which

floped

audiences, perhaps in part thanks to it.

We talked about the myth of the will - "When you want, you can" - fat people on TV, but also sexism and the word "fat".

Big interview!

You co-created the Gras politique collective, what is it and what are the objectives of this collective?

We are a queer feminist collective.

This does not mean that we do not include men, but obesity and grossophobia first impact women.

And we are queer because within the collective we have a diversity of sexual orientation and gender.

We are big deviants!

(laughs).

We created Gras Politique because we could not find our place in the existing militant movements.

Many people still think that it is enough to "want" to lose weight ...

The issue of willpower is central to grossophobia.

If it weren't for this “when you want, you can” myth, grossophobia would collapse.

This would mean that we choose to be fat, to be discriminated against, to suffer violence… This is false.

There is undoubtedly a tiny percentage of people who choose to gain weight… But this is not the case for the vast majority of people, who become fat because they have had traumas during childhood, 'they live in a precarious situation where they do not have access to qualitative food, because of genetic influences, hormones, hormonal treatment, psychic problems ... There are a thousand and one reasons to become large.

This is why obesity is a complex disease to treat and manage.

If it was as simple as a question of will, there would be no more big.

Do we see more fat people in your opinion in series, films and cultural works?

I don't know everything, but I don't have the impression… I learned that

This is us

, the American series, was going to be revived in France.

In USA Kate is played by Chrissy Metz, who is a fat person.

In France by Marielou Berry… Are they going to make him gain weight to stick to the character of Chrissy Metz?

Or are we going to have a French censored version with a little big one that will make a 44?

Fat actresses are not employed in France.

We prefer to take people to whom we will stick “fat suits”, disguises of fat people.

I don't have the impression that it has changed more than that… I make the comparison with English television: there are fat people, disabled people, people of all sexualities.

In France we are still on a retrograde model.

What is the media's responsibility in making people fat?

The media have a responsibility because they promote the perfect, standardized body.

There are criteria of the consumable woman or not and as soon as we go beyond these criteria, we are thrown away.

Whether you are fat, old, disabled, non-white ... The lack of representation and diversity, the fact that we only talk about fat people when it comes to making them lose weight, creates a vacuum in which we cannot project ourselves.

I have never seen someone on television where I said to myself "hey she looks like me".

The only person who marked me on television was a woman in the audience of the Ardisson show, a very fat black woman.

I was 6 or 7 years old, and I said to myself "this is the first time I see a fat person on TV".

She did me good, I still have the image in my head.

There are few fat idols.

Adele, we believed it, it was a failure, but good for her.

Rebel Wilson [American actress who stars in comedies] is deep into diets….

If people are happy like this, all the better, but we are 17% fat in France and there are not 17% fat on television, and I don't even ask for that much!

The only big media we have is Pierre Menès.

Or at the time Laurence Boccolini.

It's as if being fat doesn't make it possible to be a columnist or an artist.

While there are big guys who have talent: that's why we made the “Big Festival”.

It's terrible to never see someone in the media who looks like you.

Daria Marx in interview with "20 Minutes" - Olivier Juszczak / 20 Minutes

Your collective often challenges the media and institutions on the subject of grossophobia.

You recently denounced Karine Le Marchand's new program,

Opération Renaissance

.

What is wrong with this show?

Treatment of fat and fat body.

It's a show once again where we only give a voice to the fat if they agree to lose weight.

And then there are shortcuts on the lives of fat people, a psy side of the counter.

We present this as the

must

of care, while we are talking about a person who does not have a diploma and is writing a book to teach people to love themselves.

I do not know what messianic delirium Karine Le Marchand prided herself on.

I have nothing against surgery, I hope the people on this show will be happy.

But there is a difference between what is shown in

Operation Renaissance

and the reality of the fat people who are operated on.

On the screen nothing can be seen on the preoperative and postoperative follow-up.

We do not know anything about pain, about food rehabilitation.

Nor what it is like to leave the hospital with two-thirds of your stomach less.

It will impact your whole life.

We know that there are extremely serious complications with these surgeries and that 40% of people regain all or part of the weight lost within the following five years.

An eating disorder does not occur.

It's in the head.

You have co-authored a book called “Fat is not a bad word”.

Why do you think we should speak of “fat” people, rather than “overweight”, “round” or even “strong” people?

We suffered from circumlocutions around the size, and which refer to a kind of unattainable femininity: full of curves, voluptuous ... I have never felt "voluptuous", I am not a yogurt.

We have been insulted a lot of "fat" but you can't insult me ​​fat, that's what I am!

When people in the street tell me “the fat one” I answer them “yes, it's me, is there a problem?

“We are committed to removing the stigma around this adjective.

It's a joke we often make with Eva: a big check, a big gift, it's always nice!

And "obesity" is a pathologizing term, which is also why it is not used.

In addition, the calculation of BMI is called into question.

We do not use the vocabulary of a doctor.

You fight against grossophobia but also against sexism.

What do you think connects these two fights?

Women suffer more from grossophobia.

All women suffer from perfect body injunctions, and those who suffer from grossophobia even more.

Because the more we move away from the norm, the more we are discriminated against.

Women make up 80% of people operated on by bariatric surgery, while there are as many obese men as obese women.

And women are operated on at a lower BMI than men.

This means that the pressure on the body of the fat woman is multiplied.

Add these imaginations around the fat woman who would be good in bed… With a model of the fat hyperfeminized.

In Gras politique we want to tell fat people: you are also cool in jogging!

If tomorrow you were appointed minister for the fight against grossophobia, what would be your first step?

The reimbursement of all psychological and dietary consultations, for all French people.

And a social food allowance where all people could have access to the same quality of food.

That the rich don't eat better than the poor.

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