In the show "Sans rendez-vous" on Friday on Europe 1, Catherine Blanc responds to a listener, Wilfried, who says that his girlfriend makes him a scene every time he looks at another woman in the street.
However, he explains to her that his looks do not signify any attraction.
For the sex therapist, it is normal to look at the people we meet.
In the program
Sans rendez-vous
Friday on Europe 1, the sexologist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc answers the question of a listener who says that his girlfriend gets annoyed when he watches other women in the street.
This listener wonders how to make his partner understand that his looks do not signify attraction for these people.
Wilfried's question
"My girlfriend makes a scene for me every time I look at another woman in the street. Yet I explain to her that it is not because I look at other women that I want to jump on everything that moves. How him to understand ?"
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Catherine Blanc's response
"It is normal to look at the people we meet, regardless of whether they like them or not. And when we like them, it is normal that we focus on what amazes us, like a bird, a flower and why not a handsome guy or a beautiful woman. It is rather quite logical, even reassuring enough. We know how to enjoy our environment and it is marvelous. But obviously, the partner or the partner can be insecure (e), We are then in the case of a narcissistic flaw. This can be experienced as being a questioning of oneself. And suddenly household scenes explode, even in the street.
I don't know if you've ever met people who are nudged ... Sometimes it's more of a joke and connivance, but there are people who are extremely upset by it, because it brings them back to their senses. question, as long as there has been an argument before or a fragility in the couple.
But regardless of that, if the narcissistic rift is strong and internal, anyone who comes across is potentially a rival.
And obviously, suddenly, it generates a lot of tension.
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Where is the limit?
I regret not giving you the exact instructions for use.
I think the wonder is the wonder.
Afterwards, it becomes a lewd side.
When are we amazed?
When do we have a lustful, pressed, penetrating gaze?
It is a little from the moment when I am no longer where I am, that is to say when I cut my conversation, when I do not know what I am talking about ... 'elsewhere aggressive or I pull away from my wife to look single, or I say,' listen mom, let go of me. '
Obviously, if we are in things like that, we understand that we are very inelegant.
But if not, looking, smiling, seeing someone and even winking, what can it do?
It's just play.
Does this also happen to women?
Of course !
Women watch men and I hope they watch them.
They will joke too.
At the cash desk, for example, you can chat with the one in front, the one behind and with pleasure.
Or you can pass a person twice in a radius and have a knowing smile.
What can it do if not do itself good and exist?
Let's stop being afraid of everything and therefore hyper-sexualizing all our relationships with each other.
Let us watch and be dazzled. "