Partnership column: You can do that in a crisis instead of wanting to change your partner

We recently met a couple who she felt everyone else in their family needed to change.

All!

And she immediately got angry when we asked her what she could change about herself.

Horrified, she thought we were not standing by her, but inexplicably by her husband.

Usually one person in the partnership is firmly convinced that only the other has to change, and for this they want confirmation from a therapist and coach, because the partner does not listen to you.

And usually we then have most of the work in mentoring with the "good" partner who is so blind in his self-centeredness, while the other, supposedly "stubborn" partner, on the other hand, usually quickly and easily finds his new way into a better love relationship.

The apparently good guys with their rigid mindsets are the hardest nuts to crack

So how can we personally change and mature so that not only we, but also the loved one, the children, even our friends and colleagues benefit from it?