If you ask sex therapists or sexologists why it is difficult for so many people in a relationship to talk about sex, you often get the same answer: "Because talking about sexuality is still associated with great shame." But what does that mean anyway?
How can it be that in this world full of pornography, 3D vulvae and painting courses for one's own gender there is still so much room for shame?
We are all little harmony pigs. And requests for change on the most intimate level can easily call into question what has already been done or otherwise cause unrest in the relationship. The partner could feel devalued by my statements, so that he defends himself and then it's no longer about what I actually wanted: to make life together even more beautiful.