Christmas with family: stress & arguments - how the festival becomes more bearable

Do you always have to pull yourself together at Christmas?

Can you postpone the festival and drive away?

And how does the whole family manage to stop arguing?

A psychologist explains when egoism is appropriate - and why rituals can be cleared out.

WORLD

: I once read that with difficult relatives one should always imagine the childish offense in this person.

What do you think of this strategy?

Elisabeth Raffauf

: It can help.

For example, if you have a mother who showed little love for you as a child, it helps to know about her childhood.

If she had a family where compassion was a foreign word, this idea can be comforting.

It's not up to you, you weren't a bad child yourself, but your mother gave what she could and, based on her own story, became this person who stands before you.

To see it this way is definitely a high-performance

at Christmas (

)!

WORLD:

And as an adult child can you be selfish and say: "I don't care what you do, I'm going on vacation!"?