Chinanews client, Beijing, October 31st (Yuan Xiuyue) From the beginning of the year when the papi sauce child was scolded with his father’s surname, to Yang Liping’s failure in the evaluation of having no children, and some time ago, the full-time wife of "Thirty Only" was heatedly discussed. The relationship between family and occupation has always been a hot topic this year.
The most recent discussion originated from a few words by Zhang Guimei, the principal of Huaping Women's High School in Lijiang, Yunnan. She said in an interview that she had rejected a student who was a full-time wife for donations, and said she was most opposed to being a full-time wife.
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As soon as this statement was made, a "controversy" took place on the Internet. From Weibo bloggers to experts and scholars, from Internet celebrities to ordinary netizens, everyone expressed their thoughts and opinions.
The topic of "whether women should go home" has also emerged from the family and has become a social issue.
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Recently, the full-time wife and student mentioned by President Zhang Guimei responded to the media, saying that President Zhang was right and ugly.
"Everyone has different positions and different ideas. He opposes being a full-time wife. Principal Zhang said from the standpoint of our female high school students." The student also said that he had "corrected in time" and was admitted to the special post. teacher.
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Although President Zhang Guimei’s opposition to full-time wives has come to an end, discussions on this issue continue. In summary, there are probably four types of voices on the Internet.
The first type of view is that women should not be full-time wives.
First of all, it is too risky to become a full-time wife. This is to put the initiative of one's life in the hands of others; secondly, if there is no income, there is no right to speak, and it is not easy to live a palm-up life.
Moreover, if the full-time wife stays at home for a long time, she will be out of touch with society.
More importantly, the value of the current full-time wife is not recognized by society and cannot win respect.
If women frequently go home to be full-time wives, this will have an impact on the development of professional women, and the gender discrimination faced by women will be more prominent.
The second type of view is the opposite. It is believed that full-time wives or professional women are personal choices, and there is no distinction between high and low, and everyone can choose the right one according to their own circumstances.
Some people think that the husband goes to work to make money, and the full-time wife sacrifices her time to take care of the baby, all for the family, and the two should be equal.
Some people also said that full-time wives should not be beaten to death with a stick. Many people have no choice. No one can take their children and can only take them by themselves.
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The third category is a compromise. It is believed that people criticize not all full-time wives, but those who are proud of being housewives.
Although many women raise children at home, but have their own sideline and source of income, they cannot be called full-time wives.
It is understandable that some women return to the family temporarily for personal reasons.
In addition, there is also a slightly extreme view that a full-time wife is a "rice worm", and being a full-time wife with a higher education is a waste of social resources.
Data map: Nora's departure has driven the trend of women's liberation.
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In fact, the topic of full-time wives is not new at the moment.
As early as 1879, Ibsen wrote the story of a housewife who was treated as a doll-"Doll's House".
At the end of the story, the protagonist Nora recognizes her position in the family and the hypocrisy of her husband, and runs away in anger.
In 1918, "New Youth" brought Nora to China, setting off a trend of women's liberation.
But what happened to Nara after she left was followed by people's attention.
At that time, Lu Xun believed that there was only an independent consciousness and no independent economic rights. After Nora left, there were probably only two ways, either to fall or return.
Obviously, people are aware that the reality of society affects the situation of women more than a beautiful vision.
After more than 100 years, the voice of Nora's departure is no longer deafening, but controversy about "women going home" keeps appearing.
Data map: A special recruitment fair for women was held in Taiyuan, Shanxi.
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In the early 1980s, a large number of educated youth returned to the city one after another, and the country faced a serious employment crisis.
In this regard, some people suggested that "women go home" to alleviate employment pressure, which caused controversy.
In the late 1980s and mid-1990s, with the adjustment of the industrial structure, a wave of layoffs struck.
The "women go home" debate sounded again. The difference from the past is that this debate is based on the market perspective and believes that women have the right to work, but they should also accept fair competition in the market. Women's biological reasons put them at a disadvantage.
Although women have more choices, society still needs a cultural model of the division of gender roles in the family that affects most members.
At the turn of the century, the "periodical employment system" was hotly discussed. Some experts encouraged female employees to go home to take charge of housekeeping on a voluntary basis.
The view is that taking good care of the family and taking good care of the children is a good thing that benefits the country, the people, and others, and it also meets the needs of social development.
Data map: Guangzhou's first live job fair this year.
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The most recent controversy occurred in 2011. Some experts pointed out that many women are obviously neutral or even masculine while striving for a competitive advantage. They lack the awareness of women and motherhood. Therefore, it is recommended to encourage some conditions. Of women return to their families and return to them the choice of women’s return to their families.
Through the past several controversies, it can be found that although they are all talking about the same topic, they have different perspectives and concepts.
Among them, the reason for opposing "women going home" has not changed. Instead, the argument for advocating women to be full-time wives has been changing.
At first, many women in the workplace recognized and accepted that parenting and housework were women's responsibilities.
It's just that after carrying such a heavy burden, I am still at a disadvantage or even eliminated in the workplace competition.
Those who advocate "women go home" use this as an argument, believing that women should recognize this physiological difference and accept cruel market competition.
Later, the advocates turned to the connotation of gender equality and proposed that gender equality is not directly related to whether women work or not, and at the same time rectifies domestic labor.
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One of the most cited reasons in the current discussion is that being a full-time wife is a personal choice.
In the past few years, there has been a saying on the Internet: "You are responsible for being beautiful, and I am responsible for making money to support the family."
But is this really a personal choice?
There are many factors influencing women to become full-time wives, such as gender awareness, education level, work status and salary level, family, parenting, etc. Which factor has the most significant impact?
The "Chinese Full-time Wife Survey Report" released by a platform in 2014 can be used as a reference. The report shows that the time when married women in my country choose to become full-time wives is mostly during pregnancy and after giving birth.
46% of them became full-time wives after pregnancy, and 34% became full-time wives after giving birth.
At the same time, the burden from the family also affects women's career development.
According to the "Survey Report on the Status Quo of Women in the Workplace in China in 2019" released by Zhaopin Recruitment, among senior management, the proportion of men is 81.3% and women are only 18.7%.
Regarding the attribution of hindered promotion, the proportion of women who choose to “be in marriage and childbearing and passively lose promotion” is 4.6 times that of men, and the proportion of women who choose “sex discrimination” is 10.6 times that of men.
"You are responsible for being beautiful and beautiful, and I am responsible for making money to support the family." Today, more and more netizens believe that this is a "poisonous chicken soup."
It is because behind it is the traditional gender division of labor mode of "men dominate the outside and women dominate the inside" and the dual stereotypes of both sexes.
Some netizens believe that many women have the right to go home, but they do not have the conditions to go home.
Choosing to be a full-time wife in the current environment seems to be active, but in reality it is passive.
If men and women return to the family at the same cost and benefit, then this choice is truly a personal choice.
What do you think?
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