THE SEX QUESTION - I flashed my doctor, what to do?

Can you transform a patient-doctor relationship into a romantic relationship?

This is the question Pierre asks himself, after having fallen for his dermatologist, whom he encountered on a dating application.

Thursday, in Sans Rendez-vous, on Europe 1, the sex therapist Catherine Blanc gave him her advice. 

Peter's question

"I flash on my dermatologist, whom I met on a dating app. I hesitate to contact him. He may be the man of my life, and at worst, I could change doctors. do you think? " 

Catherine Blanc's response

“The difficulty is that you cannot mix things up. This doctor is nonetheless a man animated by desire and sexuality. And between the two men, the momentum is already vitiated. the momentum for a man that we would have met in the street, but it turns out that it is his dermatologist, that is to say the one who treats him. It is therefore another value that enters into the quality relationship is the idea that it's a caregiver, someone who will take care of me, who will fix me. 

We must absolutely leave the field of the medical context because otherwise we are in something that has incestuous allures.

The caregiver is in a role of parent, in a role of power too, to be able to heal or not, while being in a role of shared enjoyment.

We are in something that is wrong, regardless of ethics.

But can't this kind of meeting lead to a beautiful story?

Of course you can fall in love in any context.

Either way, romantic relationships or relationships of desire are always based on ideas that one has of the power of the other and of what makes the attraction for that other.

So, obviously the doctor will automatically be desired like the teacher, the boss, the lawyer, that is to say people who protect you, treat you, teach you, etc.

There's always a bit of that in the relationship.

Does this mean that apart from these professions, there are people who lack all these projections?

No.

So the projection of a protective parent or a saving parent is done anyway, but even more in the professional context.

And that can twist the relationship and put a little bit of an unhealthy sort of hierarchy between the two. 

Can Pierre still try his luck?

Yes, but via the app, and especially not in the consultation.

And by specifying that they crossed paths, by telling him that he was a former patient, and that he no longer intends to, because he would like to go further.

And if the two men are dating, the professional relationship must end.

We take care of the people we love, but on the other hand, it cannot be priced, to show that it is not a professional relationship. "