China News Service Client, Beijing, July 20 (Yuan Xiuyue) There is a dialogue in the movie "Returning to Twenty Years". The teacher asked the students: "Is there any way to delay aging?"
The student replied: "Is there any other way, big deal, I will commit suicide after 30 years old."
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This is obviously a nonsense, but it has some people's fears and worries about the 30-year-old.
Beyond 30 years old, it means not only aging, but also life easy to say goodbye, troubled by career, marriage and family. And this age anxiety seems to be more obvious in women.
Recently, three different types of 30-year-old women were described in the TV series "Thirty."
"Thirty Only" drama care (children's rhymes)
Gu Jia (children's rhymes), a full-time housewife with a happy family, a lovely son and a successful husband. Not only keeps the family organized, but also helps her husband solve problems in his career.
"Thirty Only" stills Wang Manni (Jiang Shuying)
Wang Manni (Jiang Shuying), the elder sister of the luxury shop, a senior "Shanghai drift", a standard urban single woman, is uneasy about the peaceful life in the eyes of her parents, and she is determined to achieve some achievements.
"Thirty Only" stills Zhong Xiaoqin (Mao Xiaotong)
Zhong Xiaoqin (Mao Xiaotong), an ordinary social worker in the workplace, works diligently and diligently, likes to chase drama after get off work, and her husband works in a public institution, and his life is ordinary and stable.
Although the lifestyles of the three people are different, they are all moving on their own tracks. However, under the calm surface, there are hidden waves.
Among them, Gu Jia faces the most controversial issues. Unlike many people who think of a full-time wife who is "respecting and optimizing", Gu Jia, a full-time housewife, is not easy at all.
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When her husband and children were still asleep in the morning, she had already gotten up to exercise, prepared breakfast, and even arranged the length of her husband's socks.
When moving to a new home, the property staff could recognize her son at a glance because she provided detailed information in advance.
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She also graduated from a prestigious school, learning a talented person, what to do, double business online. In order to let her son win on the starting line, she pleased Mrs. Wang, who lives on the top floor, by sending cakes and buying asteroids, so as to get a recommendation letter from a famous kindergarten.
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There was a problem with her husband's company and she resolved it immediately. The young secretary gave her husband oranges attentively. She noticed the first time and sent oranges to the whole company the next day, and warned the young secretary to focus on her work.
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Such a full-time wife with eighteen martial arts also had to face the crisis of life. In terms of educating children, the husband thinks that the most important thing is to let nature go, and Gu Jia feels that the best conditions should be created for the children.
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In life, Gu Jia thought about how to live a better life, but her husband was not so ambitious. In the following plot, Gu Jia also encountered the old problem of a full-time housewife, and her husband was derailed.
Zhong Xiaoqin and Gu Jia are best friends, but unlike Gu Jia's progress, Zhong Xiaoqin is more comfortable with the status quo.
"Thirty Only" stills
She respects her husband Chen Yu as a guest, but there are many potential contradictions. Zhong Xiaoqin likes to raise cats, Chen Yu likes to raise fish; Zhong Xiaoqin likes to eat milk bread, and Chen Yu likes to eat soy milk fritters.
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After get off work, they were busy with each other, and even washed their clothes separately. Although they are husband and wife, they live like roommates and live in different worlds.
An accidental pregnancy broke the balance between the two. Zhong Xiaoqin wanted to leave the child, but her husband thought that Zhong Xiaoqin was still a minor psychologically and was not prepared and should not be needed. After the abortion, the husband's indifference also hurt Zhong Xiaoqin's heart.
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Among the three people, Wang Manni is the most unconcerned, but there is also the problem of not getting married. She has been working in Shanghai for many years. Three years ago, she told her mother that if she was 30, she would return to her hometown before she got married or bought a house. But three years later, she has not achieved a goal. She missed the blind date introduced by her family, but she couldn't find the one she wanted.
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She wanted to be the store manager before the age of thirty, but even if she had outstanding ability and dedication, she was inevitably tripped by other colleagues. Not only was the list almost cut off, but she was also framed by private exchange points, and she was almost dismissed. She was alone in Shanghai, and she was sick and left unattended. But she still didn't want to admit her fate and didn't want to go back to her hometown to live a stable life.
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"Only Thirty" aired on the 7th episode, Douban scored 8.1 points, many netizens rated it as real and "cool", making people feel the same. However, some people think that this is anxiety in trafficking.
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Indeed, the first few episodes will make people feel anxious. In the play, whether it is a wealthy full-time housewife, a stable social animal in the workplace, or a cabinet sister who has no money, they are too tired to live.
However, some people say that it is not an exaggeration of TV series, and many plots can find the source in reality. In the eyes of others, Gu Jia is a perfect wife and mother. But she told Zhong Xiaoqin, who was just pregnant, that on the first day of her confinement, she felt that Gu Jia was dead and it was Xu Ziyan's mother who survived.
After being a mom, her greatest feeling was to succumb, succumbing to a title called Mom. She often thinks about when children can grow up, "can give me back".
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But even if they pay so much, in real life, housewives are often in a weak position, their labor is not recognized, and their status is not respected. In South Korea, there is a word "Mochi", which is used to devalue full-time mothers who have no income, rely on their husbands, and take children at home.
Recently, a dish of potato salad in Japan has also been hot on the Internet, because a young mother was criticized by an elderly man when she brought children to buy potato salad: "For a mother, make potato salad anyway." After being posted online, it angered countless women.
Society and families put most of the fertility pressure on women, and working mothers can’t wait to have three heads and six arms, not only to work, but also to do housework and childcare. In the workplace, they also suffer invisible discrimination because of their family commitments. Some women of childbearing age are often marginalized when looking for work.
But women really have to admit their fate when they are 30 years old, is there no more possibility?
Actually, it’s not. Just like Gu Jia in the play, she has the ability to think and has no need to put hope on others. No matter how good she is, she is just Xu Ziyan’s mother and Xu Huanshan’s wife, not herself.
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Ordinary women such as Zhong Xiaoqin can also bravely say no and leave an inappropriate marriage relationship. It is said that "thirty stands" has the meaning of "dust settling" in life, but in fact, dust settling is also the result of choice. You can choose to follow the established path, or you can choose not to bow your head or compromise.
30 years old, but only one year old. (Finish)