China News Service Client Beijing, June 8th (Yuan Xiuyue) Two days ago, a short video by dancer Yang Liping caused heated discussion on the Internet, and the number of likes has exceeded 330,000. However, this is not because of the content of the short video, but because of a comment below.
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In the comments, some netizens commented on Yang Liping's infertility, saying that a woman's biggest failure is to have no children. The so-called living out of yourself is ignorant, even if you are beautiful and excellent, you can't escape the devastation of years. The review received more than 8,000 likes, and was praised as the number one hot comment.
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After this incident continued to ferment online, many netizens questioned this argument, believing that having a baby is not a measure of a woman's success or correctness. Having a baby is a woman's right, not an obligation. Although Yang Liping has no children, she dedicated her life to dance.
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Some netizens believe that everyone has their own position and way of life, and everyone is not wrong. The fault lies in the hot comment that netizens should not randomly evaluate the lives of others and should not impose their own ideas on others.
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Many stars such as Li Ruotong, Qi Wei, Chen Shu, Li Na, Chen Derong, Ye Xuan, and Li Yugang also spoke in response to this incident.
Li Ruotong shared that as an unmarried mature woman, her comments and private messages will receive such questions every day: Why are you not married yet? She said that regardless of male or female, I hope that everyone will not make sloppy decisions for their own lives because of their age and the eyes of others. At the same time, we must learn to respect the decisions of others, because that is the life of others.
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Qi Wei said that one of the biggest failures of a person is that she still defines women to this day and still regards children and grandchildren as her only achievement.
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Li Na believes that the woman who wants to live out what she wants most is success without any definition given by the outside world.
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Chen Shu published a screenshot, denying that the value of women lies in having children.
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In response to this controversy, Yang Liping also responded in the form of a short video, saying: "A little ant is also my child, and my dance work is also my daughter."
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In the comments, Yang Liping said that people will go to aging and death, no one can save you, but your spirit is young, your breath is beautiful, it will exude a special taste. As long as you think you’re doing well and don’t hurt others, you can.
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In fact, in response to children's problems, Yang Liping also responded to the media several times. An interview was widely circulated. Someone asked her: "Don't you want children for dancing?"
She replied: "Some people's lives are for succession, some are enjoyment, some are experiences, some are onlookers. I am a bystander of life. In my next life, I look at how a tree grows, how rivers flow, how white clouds Gone, how did the nectar condense." When a reporter asked about the question of pension, Yang Liping said: "My brother and sister have so many dolls, I am not worried."
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Yang Liping once told the media that he had experienced farming life since he was a child, and also experienced family and marriage when he grew up. Although there are no children, every tree and every little ant is his own child.
Data picture: Yang Liping is performing. China News Service issued by Liu Ranyang
However, in response to Yang Liping's response, many netizens do not seem to buy it. Some netizens said that Yang Liping's biggest regret is having no children, but she dare not admit it. Some netizens also expressed dissatisfaction with the words: "Really think of yourself as a Peacock Princess, and forget that you are also an ordinary person."
Others think that dancers can be respected for giving up birth for the sake of art, but it is wrong to be born without reproducing. In addition, there are such views: women without children are imperfect, women without children have incomplete life, what is the use of having women without children and so on.
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It can be seen that similar remarks still have a realistic basis for their existence. In a poll launched by the media on whether childbirth is a must for women, 12,000 people still chose "Whether children and grandchildren are happy or not." However, the most important item is "Mutual respect and happiness", 73,000 people choose.
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All along, the issue of marriage and childbirth has attracted much attention from all walks of life, and the comments faced by female stars in the entertainment industry seem to be more harsh.
Unmarried people will be questioned and urged to marry from all sides. Married people will have to worry about whether they will be happy after giving birth, or lose their sense of girlhood, so as not to affect their careers.
Actor Ma Yili also said on Weibo that every interview must be asked a question. As an actress and mother of two children, how do you balance your career and family? She especially wondered if this question was designed specifically for women?
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Even the papi sauce, which is called an independent woman, cannot escape the external evaluation. Some time ago, the children of papi sauce were scolded with the father's surname.
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Behind this is people's diversified thinking and choices about marriage and childbirth. In recent years, the decrease in the marriage rate and the increase in the divorce rate seem to be topics of anxiety all over the world. With the development of the economy and society, as well as the improvement of women's income and education, many people's concept of marriage has also changed.
Compared with the form of marriage and childbirth, many people pay more attention to the quality of marriage and the pursuit of life. At the same time, there are also many people who choose traditional lifestyles, and the collision of different views is slowly becoming the norm.
In fact, as netizens said, everyone has their own ambitions and there is no better way of life, but adults should learn to respect and accept that others have different life paths from themselves.
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