- The effect of confinement on the sexual life of French people is multifaceted. Some, less stressed by everyday life, experience a real passion.
- But for others, the concerns linked to the health crisis also put their libido at risk, even more if their relationship with their partner was not looking good before.
- Be that as it may, confinement has highlighted the importance of a harmonious sex life. This could speed up the quest for Nirvana among some French people after confinement.
Naughty naps and sleepy erotic mornings. Since the start of confinement, the sexual appetite of some of us has been boosted. “If a couple is confined in comfortable conditions and their relationship was good before, having a less stressful daily life and a reduced mental load can increase their desire tenfold. Especially since sexuality has an anxiolytic effect and can be an outlet in this period of crisis. Because during our reports, we produce dopamine, oxytocin and endorphin ”, explains the sexologist, Magali Croset-Calisto.
This is what Julie, one of our readers, saw: “Since confinement, my libido has increased tenfold. I think about it all the time, I want to satisfy myself on my own, often. And when my husband and I make love, I still want it the next day. I love feeling pleasure so much that I need to experience it at least once a day, ”she says. Sophie's sexual life is also in good shape: “The pace of intercourse is a little more sustained. No more fantasies, maybe because I have more time to imagine… ”.
The discovery of sex toys…
Confinement is also an opportunity to learn about hot new practices: “Some are testing new experiences, as shown by the increase in orders for sex toys online. Confinement is also, for others, the moment to integrate porn into its preliminaries, ”observes Magali Croset-Calisto. A “slip party” that Stéphane experiences: “Our libido is going very well, let's say that we take a little more time and discover new pleasures. In conclusion: long live containment! », He raves.
Anne-Lise and her partner have also been able to spice up their nights in recent weeks: "At the start of confinement, my libido was at -10 on the Rocco scale ... And then yesterday, awareness: my spouse asked me if I always found him sexy and attractive, what he was doing wrong, what he should do better ... And there, the click. In more than five years, we had never taken the time to ask ourselves to really discuss what we love, without taboos. We never tried new things either. Too much work, routine before pleasure. So, since that night, we begin a new containment, under the duvet this time! " Marion, too, has found new ways to climb the curtain: “Our sex is more frequent and more intense right now. Above all, we try to be more inventive. For three weeks, we have been doing a little mixed wrestling fight together. All grips are allowed, even under the belt. The first one who submits must satisfy all the wishes of the other throughout the day ”.
"I couldn't even enjoy anymore"
Conversely, concerns related to the health crisis and its economic consequences sometimes make pass all desire for hugs. As Dominique testifies: “I saw my libido drop in abysmal abysses for two weeks. At all hours of the day, I am saturated with bad news. The result in the evening is obvious: squeak! Nothing… No desire to perform. "Same for Romuald:" My libido is at half mast, while I'm a fan of the thing usually. I had to start watching sex movies to make it come back slowly. I couldn't even enjoy it any more. ” Difficulties that are often expressed at this time during Magali Croset-Calisto's consultations: "For those who live their confinement in very spartan conditions, those who did not have harmonious relationships before, those who fear for their health or have fear of tomorrow, sexuality becomes secondary ”, she notes.
For Agathe, it is promiscuity that has a negative effect on her libido: "We see each other all the time, we never miss each other, we no longer have any mystery for each other, it doesn't help level of desire. And then, it is without counting the anxiety, the fear of the disease, the worry for the future and for those close to him ”. And for Olivier, confinement did not deconfigure his sexuality: "There is not much going on with my partner usually ... I thought it would be better during confinement. On the contrary, in the past six weeks, I have only touched it once, ”he laments.
"Interposed screen sexuality is booming"
Another difficulty: the fact of not seeing one's sexual partner, confined far away. A situation that invites the separated to be tempted from a distance by interposed screens or on the phone. “We use WhatsApp, sexting and sex toys ordered via an application. Needless to say, we are hot and May 11 is eagerly awaited. But it allowed us to experience certain things, to express our fantasies. The distance and the fact of not being able to join exacerbate the envy beyond all that I could have imagined ”, confides Lily. “Sexuality through interposed screens is booming. Because the fact of seeing the other and seeing yourself, masturbating or using a sex toy, reinforces the excitement. And while we might believe that people fear revenge porn , we see that they trust each other and are happy to engage in virtual sexuality, ”comments Magali Croset-Calisto.
The situation is further complicated for those who had a double life before confinement. Like Julie: "It is difficult for me not to share moments of pleasure with my second man ... But we are satisfied with each other by sexting and it is very exciting. I can't wait to find it! ", She gets carried away. “Those who live side stories tend to text and play on each other's fantasies. But some also take the pretext of work to go and find their lover or mistress, despite the confinement, ”observes Magali Croset-Calisto.
"I touch myself more than usual"
And for singles, confinement is not synonymous with abstinenceneither was sexual. "I make virtual meetings on Tinder, I send sexting and I touch myself more than usual," says Juliette. Mia also continues her solo sex life: "Being alone at home and having no partner, the desire is greatly felt. My vibrators have become close friends and I consume porn. ” For Guillaume, the absence of contact is more difficult to bear: “Masturbation has become more frequent. It even started to scare me, because the pace was getting very high (about 4 times a day). I slowed down by setting limits, but I'm "doggy". And I consume a lot of porn, "he says. "Having fewer social interactions often increases their libido," says Magali Croset-Calisto.
For Stanislas, accustomed to short-term relationships, the frustration is at its height: "Boredom and long days paradoxically strengthen my libido, but I have no choice but masturbation, several times a day, which is sometimes not easy being in a house with small brothers and sisters and parents sometimes entering my room unexpectedly. I also consume a lot of pornography, much more than normal. To prepare for the deconfinement, I spend a lot of time on Tinder and I already have appointments for mid-May, which should allow me to gradually resume a normal sex life. ”
"After confinement, I intend to chain meetings"
Because one thing is certain: confinement will have an impact on everyone's private life, says Magali Croset-Calisto. “This period is indicative of the type of relationship we have with each other and the importance of having a harmonious sex life. Example with two lovers: if the absence of the other proved to be unbearable during confinement, it is likely that the one who is engaged elsewhere makes his couple fly apart in order to fully experience the other story, ”he explains. -she.
And for singles, the deconfinement could even be accompanied by a certain sexual frenzy: “They will want to make up for lost time. Because after the omnipresence of Thanatos these last months, the Eros will rebound, it is an impulse of life ”, continues Magali Croset-Calisto. "It's going to be a party after confinement, I intend to chain meetings," warns one of our readers.
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