The spring of my heart seems to be coming late this year. In April, the flowers faded, but my heart was still cold. This may be because the outdoor activities have decreased due to the Corona 19, so I couldn't feel the energy of spring.

However, despite the unfamiliar concept that 'Social Distancing' was first encountered in this corona event, it is not unfamiliar. Because, since the birth of a child, I have already been living a distance from society. With my wife's childbirth and parental leave, my daily commute disappeared, I naturally stopped attending dinners and gatherings, and rarely held appointments with my friends.

There is always a lot of work to be done in our home where children are born, and there is a child who needs parents 24 hours a day. In fact, if there weren't even that, social relations would have ended in both parents who were waiting for their grandchildren.


It was definitely different before the child. Originally, I was very outgoing, so I organized a party and organized a meeting, and after marriage, I brought friends to housewarming. However, from the time the child was born, she became very far from being extroverted. It is difficult to go out for a while unless someone is taking care of the child, and it is difficult to invite someone to the house because there is a child. Occasionally, even if a wife takes care of a child alone, it is not easy for her to be alone, so she cannot make a promise. However, when I invited them to the house, neither the child care nor the conversation made me comfortable. As a result, I couldn't hold on to my appointment, and over time I naturally went away from various gatherings.

Before the experience of child-rearing, a friend or colleague with a baby was not accepting social gatherings as a natural step in life. I thought it was considerate not to contact me by saying, 'It will be difficult to come out because I have a baby.' And now, through experience, I am desperately realizing how great the promises and meetings are to the caregivers. They and I were already living at a social distance while raising children.

I am also adapting to the changed environment and living with my own satisfaction. However, sometimes I think that the social distance that is far away is 'stopping like this'. Even if it's not arbitrary, when I see friends who are relatively free with time and space because I don't have friends or office workers who need to keep meeting people, I sometimes worry that I'm only socially disconnected from my child. When the corona is over, people's distance will get closer, but my social distance will not change. Meetings and appointments are still a big deal, and the only cafe you can bring your kids to is the Kids Cafe. Can we narrow down the social distance that is already far away?

While thinking about it, a phone call came from a company motive. I suddenly remembered my way home from work and called. He said he wanted to see his face once, but he was sorry that he couldn't meet at the same time these days. It's been a while, but I've been saying hello in the voice. I ended the call by saying, "Let's see the face once Corona is silent." In fact, I haven't been in frequent contact with the friend, but even now, I was more glad and thankful to receive a call from my friend when I was intentionally leaving social distance.

It wasn't difficult, but I also wondered why I couldn't make a phone call. If you think about it, I think that social distance was not only leading to 'physical distance' but also to 'psychological distance'. I was able to continue my relationship with just one phone call.


Through this corona incident, we will add an understanding of 'social distance'. I made a family earlier than me, and I looked back at me as a step away from the motives and seniors who had to move away from society and I thought this was natural. And now, on the other side, I look at me who is socially distant by raising children. When I thought that not contacting was about caring for people who were raising children, I became a person who was happy to contact me once.

When Corona becomes calm and goes back to everyday life, how about contacting her friends who had no choice but to keep social distance around?

The phone call to someone who is tired of everyday life
It can be a warm gift like a spring day.

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