- After launching the “Jouissance Club” Instagram account, its author, Jüne Plã, made a book of the same name, in bookstores this Wednesday.
- A fun manual to get to know your body and the body of the other.
- The goal: to achieve fulfilling sexuality through a mapping of pleasure.
Do you want fair, uninhibited, enlightened and orgasmic sexuality? And did you know that it is not only penetration into life? There is all that sex has to offer too! Do you want a drawing? That's good, in Jouissance Club, a cartography of pleasure * (ed. Marabout), in bookstores this Wednesday, the illustrator Jüne Plã made a plethora of it, drawings, to give birth to a playful manual on sex.
"It's like a recipe book, but ass recipes," says the author, who first launched Jouissance club in the form of an Instagram account, which today brings together a community of 325,000 subscribers. From now on, it is also a 250-page book, to get to know one's body, the body of the other, to discover what gives us pleasure, without shame, without taboo, and with explicit images for understand everything before getting started.
Jouissance Club is initially an Instagram account. What did the interaction with subscribers bring to the development of the book?
All ! Without the community that follows me on Instagram, my thinking would not have been the same. My vision on feminism, sexuality and gender was refined thanks to the comments of people, the private conversations I had with them. Many errors were corrected along the way, including inclusiveness, because I did not want to address a single category of people.
I posted publications that talked about women or men with heterosexual sexuality, and I received messages from trans people who felt excluded. And in particular a trans man, who wrote to me to say that he did not feel included in this post, because even if he had a vulva, he did not consider himself a woman. Meeting him and his boyfriend, talking with them, taught me inclusiveness and a whole range of sex that I didn't know.
Precisely, this book speaks to everyone, regardless of sex, gender, sexual orientation, age ...
At the very beginning of Jouissance Club, I represented the majority, being a cisgender woman [who recognizes herself in the sex which was assigned to her at birth] and straight. I was not aware of those who have different experiences. You can be a woman with a penis, a man with a vulva. I understood the importance of being as inclusive as possible, which is why my book is deliberately arranged. Feminism is not just a story of cisgender women against patriarchy, it is a struggle against all inequalities: I don't want to prioritize the battles.
In France, we are far behind on sex education, which is very incomplete. It is difficult to talk about sex in an educational way beyond the question of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and the risk of unwanted pregnancy. However, it's important to talk about different sexual orientations, notions of gender, consent. It is also important to address young audiences, who do not always know where to find the right answers to their questions.
Young or old, women and men often know their body quite badly, which gives them pleasure and what gives it to their partner. What are the risks of this misunderstanding in one's own sexuality and in our relationship to others?
Ignorance maintains the old models: we have been forced since childhood to enter into stereotypes. A man must be strong, hard, be dominant, and the woman must be docile. It is very difficult to get out of these patterns. But if it is important to get out of this very “penetrative-centered” sexuality (for heterosexuals), it is because it is deadly boredom! It is not our fault if we have trouble getting out of the “foreplay, penetration, ejaculation, and curtain” scheme! ". It doesn't mean that we suck or that we lack imagination, it's just that we have never been told anything about how to approach sexuality differently. The only documentation we have is free mainstream porn, which can have devastating effects.
Besides, we already talk a lot about the pleasure of people who have a penis, so I wondered about the need to talk about it or not. Then I decided that yes, because this work is inclusive, that there are women with a penis, but also men who do not know their body, prostatic pleasure, do not take the time to touch, to discover their erogenous zones which also have a high orgasmic potential. In a man, what does it say about his relationship with his body and the body of the other if he considers normal to sodomize his partner, but refuses to be sodomized in return, because he considers that it would be humiliating. This precise point calls into question quite a few notions of genres which no longer have any place. I, who am from Marseilles, I no longer count the times when I have heard men say "I am not a PD". And that, I don't want to hear anymore! What is shameful about being gay or female? Heterosexual cisgender men need to realize that they are not above others. By exploring their rectum, they will discover an incredible world, orgasms of rare intensity!
“Preliminaries”, “consent”, “no”… How does this awareness also go through words?
Of course ! It's a long way to learn what you like, to learn to say no too, and to learn to hear when someone says "no". As a cisgender woman, I didn't always dare to say no, I did things that I regret today, and I would have liked to have had this book in my hands when I was young so that I could realize that my body does not belong to men, which i have the right to say no, to demand things, like an orgasm. The notion of consent, respect for self and for the other is the key to happy sexuality.
This is also why we must throw the word "foreplay" in the trash, because this term only validates sexual intercourse when there has been penetration. However, what we consider as preliminary - caresses, cunnilingus or fellatio - are full-fledged ways of making love. This is what helps a lot of people to reach orgasm, so do not underestimate this part of sexuality, it is richer than just penetration. You can do a billion things with your hands and your tongue that the penis cannot do. It opens up the field of possibilities!
An image better than a thousand words, in this book, you speak, but you also draw…
I draw everything that porn does not show, because these are films made by men and for men, where we forget to consider the pleasure of people with a vulva. I did a lot of research on the Internet on sexuality, and apart from the explicit content of mainstream porn - which is neither representative of real sexuality, nor for educational purposes - there are no images, only texts, with which it is not easy to make a representation. A drawing is simple, it allows you to visualize the movement I am talking about.
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The book is coming !!! Release on January 15 ⭐️ And There will be a ton of exclusives: ⭐️ A preface from @mrtnpage (author of “beyond penetration) ⭐️ a lesson in anatomy carried out with the precious help of Odile Fillod⭐️ tips to live your sexuality without guilt, to masturbate, explore, understand the mechanisms of our sexes, etc. two maps of our multiple pleasure zones to visualize the extent of the possibilities in terms of creativity enfin and finally the illustrated techniques that I share here (more than 100 tips !!) ⭐️ To pre-order it, go to my featured story: BOOK 📚. I can't wait to hear your thoughts. I spent a year working on this book, nights and weekends, it was intense but I hope that it will help a lot of people. In any case, I would have liked to have had such a work in my hands from my adolescence. It would probably have saved me from doing something stupid ... My sexuality really started today, and it's thanks to you and your support. So thank you to all the people who follow me and who are changing my vision of sex and feminism. ❤️
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Throughout the pages, you have a lot of reassuring words for those who think they are not normal. Why do we come to think of such a thing?
Because we mistakenly think that there is a standard, and it is by repeating that each is unique, that we do not have to comply with these rules, that we manage to free ourselves, in his sexuality as in his life. There should be no taboos in sex. You have the right to be a woman who loves or hates making love during your period, to want to become a fountain woman and to learn how to do it. Everyone is different: you don't have to do everything, test everything, have orgasms.
The important thing is to listen to yourself, and also to communicate. While we live in a society where sex is omnipresent, where we can freely buy a sex toy, many people are bored in their sexuality. For me, the real sexual revolution is feminist and will take place the day when everyone will have the right to his orgasm, because everyone has the right! It will take place when sex is more egalitarian, when we take into account the desire of the other, when we have learned to know the body of the other, to give him pleasure without necessarily expecting it in return. We can see this book as a manual for learning how to make love.
* Jouissance Club, a pleasure map , Marabout editions, in bookstores on January 15, 16.90 euros.
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