Some lovers kiss on the street, often young or young couples. But this practice seems to fade as the relationship continues. At the microphone of Mélanie Gomez, in the show Sans Rendez-Vous , on Europe 1, the sexologist Catherine Blanc talks about the importance of the kiss in the sexuality and in the well-being of the couple.
The question of Claudia, 32 years old
"My husband and I have been together for seven years and I realize that we are not making deep kisses anymore." When I met a couple in the street kissing on the lips, I thought about my husband. replied: 'they just met.' I find it a little sad, is it the lot of all couples? "
Catherine Blanc's answer
"It's not inevitable but very common.When we meet, the first way we have to approach is to penetrate us.It is first the looks, then the words.We try to find out what he It's going on in the other's head, how the other sees the world, and then the mouth, because we're going to get close and we're going to mix in his tongue, his saliva, and get inspired in the true sense of the word. In a way, kissing is extremely important in sexuality, because if you pay a little attention, you will see that through the kiss you will know how the other will approach you, how the other you If your mouth is closed, not closed, your mouth open and too voracious, which leaves you little space, or on the contrary, a mouth that opens and closes to the extent of your mouth, At your own pace, the way you nibble, lick, kiss, discover yourself is already what happens in sexuality.
We stop because, as we have gone on the other side in sexuality, in penetration, it is as if we no longer give ourselves the opportunity to remake, to reinvent things. We give ourselves a smack that does not even have the taste of smack anymore. He would be curious only if he were given to his neighbor or neighbor. But when it is done on the mouth or the cheek of his partner, we do not pay attention anymore. It is a pity to reduce the field of sexuality to our sexes while again, sexuality is written well before coitus.
Some generations may be uncomfortable with the idea of kissing in public, moreover Brassens sang "lovers who smooch on public benches." And it is true that we are a little lonely in the world at this time, it can be very sexual. We can not dare in public or on the contrary, play on greedy, and almost exhibitionist. But it's very intimate a kiss. Her husband may not want to make him a public certainly, this being said, it seems to me that he does not even do it in private anymore.
Yet it is not a question of public for all. Some couples, as soon as they see themselves kiss each other. And for some, they are not yet making love, and that's how they do it. It can take hours. At that moment, they erase the outside world, they do not want to demonstrate anything. Often, they close their eyes, they feel and look for each other: the world is gone.
No more kissing is not a drama, but it can be an alert. We can also no longer take the hand, no longer caress, no longer kissing. We end up no longer talking to each other, looking at each other, getting excited, touching each other, kissing each other, caressing each other and at some point we jump on it. And after that, we are surprised to find nothing more to do! We must be careful not to reduce sexuality to mechanics. From time to time we can kiss each other cheerfully, it will make it even more delicious! "