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Most parents have noticed that after a birth, the sexual activity of the couple is at half mast. Some men worry about it, while the loss of libido of a woman who has just had a child is completely normal, according to the psychoanalyst and sexologist Catherine Blanc, who delivers his analysis Friday in No appointment , on Europe 1.
The question of Frédéric, 29 year old dad
"Since the birth of my daughter, 18 months today, my wife has no more libido.We do not make much love, every two months or so, and again I have to insist .. She always tells me that she's tired, do you think it's the truth or she has no desire for me? "
Catherine Blanc's answer
"A loss of libido is inevitable, first of all because we must still recognize the effort that it is, nine months of pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding if necessary, small nights ... All this Of course, it does not really contribute to a resumption of immediate, oleo-ole, liberated sexuality.There are also some kilos, there is a malaise in one's body, sometimes there is a hormonal imbalance, a post-depression. partum ...
All this does not necessarily last 18 months?
It starts like that and it can happen, for several reasons. First, there is a difficulty which can be a depression, which persists, and which is there, lurking in the shadows. It may also be because this child is ultimately the source of pleasure, the source of enjoyment of this woman. And that, suddenly, she can not find the way of his man and what he can bring him.
In any case, the couple must not resume their sexuality before at least a month, 40 days or so, so that the uterus has quietly returned to its position, so that the body has recovered physically, it is important. Men need to know because some are quite enterprising.
We must talk about it, be tender too. We do not have to approach sexuality through sexuality. It can be approached by hugs, sweets. Melee is important because it is in the care of the body of an infant. It is important that she feels as neat in her body, and brought little by little in her femininity, valued in her body that she recovers.