In homosexual couples, especially among men, there would be a passive member and an active member. This is the accepted idea that some sometimes convey aloud. Thursday, in "Without Rendez-Vous" on Europe 1, the psychoanalyst and sexologist Catherine White delivers her analysis on this question.
Antoine's question, 42 years old
"I have some gay friends, and I regularly hear about assets and liabilities, can you tell me what it means, who is the man and who is the woman?"
Catherine Blanc's answer
"Before I say active-passive, I wanted to go back to who makes the man, who makes the woman, because that's a heterosexual question, and in each of us there are paternal and maternal references. male and female, whether heterosexual or homosexual, so there is not one who says I play this role, it is me today who makes the woman or who makes In fact, we could see in a heterosexual couple women who have very masculine attitudes and men who have a very feminine attitude in their relationship and in their sexuality, so that does not mean much, if it is not to give an account of our received ideas and our fears to understand what is played out in each individual.
So active-passive, it exists?
The one who is going to be active is the one who is going to be more in decision-making, movement or penetration. But this being so, it is still a cliché to think that the one who is passive is not active. He is active in his sexuality. He is active in his ability to receive and welcome. He is active in the sense that his fantasy and his eroticism goes through this way of welcoming and letting him think that he is attacked by the other, even if he is at the origin and he is welcoming of that. .
This is true also in heterosexual relationships. That is, a woman is not necessarily passive in the face of an active man, since she can be extremely dominant in the same sexual act. And so be extremely active in turn. Even penetrating.
In homosexuals, one can simply say that having two homosexual men two penises and two rectums, we can say that they have the opportunity to play even more the position and one and the other. They have a freedom that they express and do great good to them.
So we are only in the belief?
No, it's not just an idea, even if it's a popular idea to want to categorize them. But the reality is that we re-enact in our sexuality stories of relationship that we have inherited or whose ins and outs we have understood.
Afterwards, it is the reading that we have that actually we will instead invest characteristics inherited from a father or a mother, or those who have served as ... in any case the standards that we have allowed to grow and build ourselves.