Friendship passes through the vicissitudes of time, and there is no one perfect friendship, because change is nature in humans. But the Social Media era has increased the chances of destabilizing friendships. You see your friends from a new perspective, with no historical precedent.
Enter «Facebook» and «Instagram» and «Snapchat», to see who went out with whom, and this met without inviting you, or see a friend visiting your city without informing you, or even try to communicate with you.
Usually friendships change after the age of 30, but in the era of «Social Media» change occurs before that for the following reasons:
Platform transparency: Social Media platforms are highly transparent because of the human nature of the show and the restriction of privacy. Users let their followers see who they are, what they do, and at what time. If you feel excluded, you will have a sense of tension that you cannot hide.
Of course we exclude, in this case, those who call their families only without friends.
You may become increasingly frustrated and angry when you wonder why someone does not respond to you immediately, when they are able to give 10 Likat to Instagram in five minutes? Or a friend gives you excuses not to go out with you (maybe sick or busy with the family), but you can find him in the picture of your friend's friend at an event. This transparency is cruel, frustrating and frustrating, but it will make you reassess your friendships to learn people's metal.
Unintended Consequences: Imagine you shared a photo with a friend and wrote a comment that reflects how much fun you have. Then enter another friend who was unable to join you, and read the comment. Whatever your intentions are pure and good, that suspension will not help you, because it caused pain to those who could not participate, because he felt ostracized and excluded, even if it was not intentional.
Before the Social Media era, if you had a mini-birthday party at the workplace, you would invite everyone, but if you decided to stay somewhere else and only invited those close (including your colleague so and so), and you don't have to invite all colleagues, nobody knows.
Of course you can tell that colleague to keep the party secret, and thus will survive your action, but in the era of «Social Media» people will know it inevitably .. At the same moment.
In-depth search: Social Media platforms are designed to be addictive.Whatever you are not interested in the accounts of fame researchers, each platform has more than one way to search and verify the lives of virtual people, and each account contains posts that may shock you, cause you nausea, or feel you That you are less than them. What Social Media is doing is exactly what fashion and life magazines have been doing for 10 to 20 years: modifying, refining and beautifying ugly.
The best way to form and maintain a friendship is through direct communication, interaction and dialogue. The best way to destroy friendship, annoy your friends, and make them untouchable is to boast of your crude contributions to those platforms. Use Social Media wisely and reasonably, and don't make yourself a producer!
• Social Media platforms are highly transparent because of the human nature of the review and the restriction of privacy.
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