Bullying does not end with a handshake September 9 21:25

Last month, we introduced an example of an elementary school student who had been bullied in NHK's web news. Then, from a wide range of ages across the country, `` I also had the same experience '', `` I was also shaken by my daughter's bullying '', `` Even though the teacher was taught, I was stunned that there was no negotiation power '' I received a lot.

Reunion meeting bullying intensely

How was the “reconciliation meeting” held at school?

A 28-year-old man living in Chiba talked about his experiences.

It means that when he was in fifth grade, he was bullied by his classmate and beaten or kicked.

So he appealed to the teacher that he was bullied.

The man confessed, “I thought it was the only way there was.” Then, the teacher called this classmate, talked in front of the man, and immediately said, "Let's get along now."

At this time, the man said, “I felt relieved or that it was finally over.” But bullying started again a few days later, and the number of classmates who took part in the bullying increased.

The man said, “Whatever you do, bullying has become intense because you just shake hands and you won't get angry any more.
The teacher felt like assisting bullying. I still feel that I can't forgive my teacher as well as my classmates who have been bullied. "

The heart scar left

Some people say that the “Reconciliation Meeting” has caused a major wound on their hearts. A 20-year-old woman living in the Kanto region is said to have been bullied by his classmates when he was in first grade.

When a woman consulted with her teacher, she was called with her classmates on the perpetrator's side, and a “reconciliation meeting” was held. The teacher told the bullying child, “If you do that, you ca n’t do that,” and immediately said, “Need to make up,” and asked them to shake hands.

The woman said she felt that she was not reflecting on her, but she refused to shake hands. The feeling at that time was, “The bullying child and the teacher were convinced.

Only my feelings were left behind. "

Eventually, bullying continued, but women could no longer rely on teachers and no longer attend school.

After being diagnosed with PTSD and now 20 years old, it is said that she can only go out with her mother or someone who can be trusted.

The woman appealed, "I think that all the words, violence, and words from the teachers in the school are all in my head and will never go away."

The mother said, “At least there is a person who is injured and still injured, but I don't think the educational situation will change, I think there is a teacher who thinks that it is a problem, so I think it will change I wanted you to do it. "

National response

Since the bullying suicide of junior high school students in Otsu City that occurred in 2011, the national government has established the “Promotion Prevention Measures against Bullying” and has been focusing on early detection and solutions for bullying.

"Basic policy for prevention of bullying, etc." revised two years ago, "Thoroughly protect the damaged child students" "For the perpetrated child, a decent attitude with educational considerations "Teaching with bullying is simply an apology and cannot be easily resolved".

On the other hand, when confirming this reconciliation meeting with the Ministry of Education, Culture, Sports, Science and Technology, “The country does not recommend the“ reconciliation meeting ”. Because bullying requires different responses depending on the case, leave it to the school. I answered.

Give instruction individually over time

As a response to bullying, Mr. Shinji Endo, a former elementary school principal and a professor at Waseda University professor graduate school, pointed out that such guidance is being provided at the school. It ’s important to give guidance individually, because the real intentions do n’t come out.

“There is a limited amount of time, and there is a desire to finish things one by one quickly, and there is not enough guidance, and a desire to settle by shaking hands with a smile will lead.” It was.

On the other hand, Dr. Endo pointed out that the age structure of teachers is distorted and the business is busy, and Visiting Professor Endo said, “The problem of bullying is not something that can be solved easily, but at the time of listening. "It will take a lot of time, and it will surely be a burden on the teacher. I think it's important to reduce clerical work and to create an environment where the teacher can fully face the child."

We will continue to interview. We look forward to hearing from you all who have had the same experience. Write "#Do you bully by shaking hands?" https://www3.nhk.or.jp/news/contents/newspost/form.html