Hugh Hefner's widow talks about her relationship with the Playboy mogul: 'When we were doing it, he would look in the mirror on the ceiling, not into my eyes' She lost herself during her marriage, claims Crystal Harris (37), the third wife and widow of billionaire Playboy editor. Crystal claims he was a manipulative being: "I feel like he brainwashed me," controlling the schedules of his girls and giving them a weekly allowance of $1,000 for the aesthetic care he dictated.