"My ideals are not money and not at home": why Russian women are massively looking for acquaintances with military personnel in social networks

Every day in social networks there are dozens of messages from Russian women who dream of building relationships with the military. In some specialized groups of VKontakte, the number of subscribers has already exceeded 20 thousand.

In improvised questionnaires, women post their photos, age and requirements for future chosen ones. RT spoke with women hoping to find their happiness on the Internet, and found out what attracts them to the military.

"Hope for the spiritual, strong, native"

32-year-old Tamara lives in Voronezh, she is a lawyer by education. "I want mine, my beloved, my dear," the woman writes in her profile in the VKontakte group dedicated to acquaintances with military personnel.

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In an interview with RT, she explained that from the very beginning the SVO was very worried about our fighters on the frontline: the Voronezh region borders on the combat zone, explosions were heard in the city.

"I listened at night, asked the men I knew who went to the front line, how far the enemy was from us, from our city," the interlocutor recalls.

Tamara is convinced that the military, who fulfill their duty to the Fatherland, are spiritual and patriotic people. Her uncle is also a military man, at one time he studied at the Kiev Higher Naval Political School, worked as a deputy in Vladivostok, on a ship.

"An employee who risks his health is always (and in our time especially) very much in demand by the female sex, employers, people. Hope for the spiritual, the strong, the native, the pure – this is all so important for a woman, so beloved. And the woman loves him like a child, prays and wants to pull everyone out on her fragile shoulders, "the interlocutor explains the desire to link her fate with a soldier.

Tamara is not afraid of long separations due to business trips of a potential lover: she believes that being jealous of the service is like being jealous of the Motherland.

"Time in the service is the time of a fighter, which he gives to his beloved Fatherland. The wife who is waiting for our hero at home, the parents of the fighter are real patriots who have grown a love for our country. To her, beloved, they are not jealous. This conflict has been going on for so long! And our military has become a hope for peace, defenders of peace and family," she explained.

"We support all of you, love you, share our faith in the best," Tamara appealed to the Russian military, fulfilling their duty to the Motherland.

"My ideals are not money and houses"

Anna Seminikhina lives in Novorossiysk, now she is studying, dreams of becoming a teacher of computer science. And also to build a strong relationship with the military.

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Anna told RT that the craving for people who devoted themselves to military service probably came from the family: her mother and father were in public service, and her grandfather went through the war.

In her profile, Anna writes that she is looking for a man 35-45 years old and wants a serious relationship.

"The military is different from civilians. My ideals are not money or houses, cars. The military is the ideal for me. And the fact that I'm still alone, maybe it's temporary?" asks Anna.

Enviable suitors

A resident of Simferopol, Laura is 50 years old. She sent a questionnaire to the military dating group not only to start a relationship, but also to provide support to those who went to the SVO zone if possible.

"I am without model parameters, and I am 50 years old, but educated, wealthy, with a good sense of humor and a kind heart," the woman writes. - I will get acquainted with the military, I will communicate, I will support morally, if a person is now on the SVO. And then we'll see."

In an interview with RT, Laura noted that in case of a successful acquaintance, she is set up for a serious relationship. She understands how difficult it is for the wives of servicemen waiting for their men at home, but she is ready for this.

"Serving the Motherland is his choice, and he is worthy of respect," Laura is convinced. - The military has always been considered enviable suitors. These guys are strong, smart, and most importantly – brave. Not everyone has such a strong sense of responsibility and love for the Motherland. To be ready to give one's life for one's country, for one's people – such heroism is not inherent in anyone."

Long separations are not terrible

Muscovite Alice (name changed at the request of the heroine) also decided to try her luck in the group of acquaintances with the military. In her understanding, the military are exemplary men who are ready to defend not only the Motherland, but also their own family.

"For me, this is a man of honor who loves his homeland and is ready to defend it, which means that he will be the same in the family. I have a lot of respect for this profession. I myself come from a military family and since childhood I know how responsible they are and, despite the difficult work, very kind, sympathetic people, "the girl explains.

She told RT that she had previously been married to a military man, but the relationship did not end because of the hardships of military service. In a previous marriage, a woman has already faced the need to wait for her beloved from shifts and business trips - this does not frighten her.

"I treat a long absence normally: when you love a person, it's all trifles. And it didn't affect the marriage in any way – we didn't divorce because of work. Support, love and care - this is even felt at a distance, "the interlocutor of RT summed up.

Be ready for trials

Family psychologist Galina Bukriyeva notes that most often military wives have a certain psychotype - according to her, not every woman will be able to withstand the difficulties associated with such relationships.

"These are sacrificial people who are ready to obey, because the military is an iron discipline: fell - squeezed. In such relationships, women can realize some kind of service. The military often moves. And in their companions there is often a craving for constant changes - in this they can also realize themselves: they constantly need to build something new, each time to re-equip life in a new place, "the expert explains.

According to the psychologist, women who grew up in military families often marry military personnel. For them, such a relationship is the realization of the script and ideals instilled in them from childhood.

"We all come from childhood. For women who grew up in military families, this is the only right life. They are sharpened for this and firmly believe in these ideals," Galina Bukriyeva emphasizes.

The interlocutor of RT also recalled that military service in hot spots inevitably affects the human psyche - later he needs rehabilitation to adapt to life in peaceful conditions. A large burden falls on the families of the military.

"Women who seek to link their fate with the military must be fully aware of the consequences associated with service in combat zones. This is post-traumatic stress syndrome (PTSD), and wounds, and contusions, "the family psychologist concluded.