Gauthier Delomez 6:49 p.m., December 29, 2022
It is a dreaded passage for all parents: the adolescence of their child.
In the program "Bienfait pour vous", doctor Arnault Pfersdorff and psychologist Clémence Prompsy discuss the good behaviors to adopt and those that should rather be avoided in order not to cause a crisis.
Do you have to be constantly reassuring with your teenagers, play it cool to avoid conflicts?
These are questions that many parents ask themselves when their children are teenagers.
In the program
Bienfait pour vous
, Doctor Arnault Pfersdorff, pediatrician and author of
Vous, Parents
, and Clémence Prompsy, a psychologist specializing in adolescents, answer these questions by discussing the good behaviors to adopt and those that are preferable. to avoid.
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Not being too close to your teenager
Doctor Arnault Pfersdorff advises first of all "not to be friends with your children".
"I observe parents who want to be too close to their teenagers. No, it is the young person who will perhaps take certain steps to involve the parent", he explains to Julia Vignali and Mélanie Gomez.
However, even if there is a teenage crisis, "we must always keep in touch. The parent must always be there", insists the pediatrician.
Indeed, "the adolescent must know that he can count on the parent, the mother or the father, even if he is silent, even if he locks himself in his room and does not communicate. You always have to keep in touch,” says Dr. Arnault Pfersdorff.
To keep this link, the doctor recommends not to do it in an exaggerated way, "to say every five minutes 'You can count on me'", but rather to "let it come".
How to stay in touch
Clémence Prompsy opines: "Being friends with your teenager is perhaps a bad idea because they need to make their own experiences".
According to the psychologist, "what is very important to keep the link is that when they come to us, we try not to be judgmental and moral".
An exercise that can be complicated.
For this, Clémence Prompsy recommends reading the book
Speaking so that her teenager listens, and listening so that her teenager speaks
, "which still works very well".
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"The idea (of this book) is to open the debate on emotions, on what we may have experienced - 'You felt sad, humiliated' - and then to offer help - 'Do you want me to help you intervene? Do you have any ideas for solutions?'", explains the psychologist specializing in adolescents.