The forgotten of the Trans Law: "And intragender violence, what?"

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On December 12, the Trans Law became definitive with some modifications to the original text.

Although the Minister of Equality, Irene Montero, spoke of the approval of the norm "without setbacks",

was left out , on the equalization of rights between a mistreated homosexual and a woman victim of gender violence.

A PSOE amendment, accepted by United We Can, allowed this deletion at the last minute.

And the discontent remains.

"When will intragender violence be taken into account so that victims can have the same rights as those of sexist violence?"

This is the text of the petition of a family whose daughter was murdered at the hands of his girlfriend in 2020 in

(Granada) and that will be taken to Congress to implore changes.

A question to which the survivors of this phenomenon await an institutional response, even more so after its disappearance from the standard approved, definitively, last Thursday.

"It is a change of stickers to approve self-determination in minors," experts in intragender violence warned

weeks ago , a form of abuse between homosexual couples that does not have specific legal recognition.

"An LGBT person assaulted by their partner will not have an ex officio complaint, or assistance centers, or devices, or specific places or legal advice centers," explained

, a lawyer specializing in the subject.

In mid-2021, a homosexual couple ended up in Madrid's dungeons.

They had had a domestic dispute, but their confinement hid a cruder story.

One of them had some injuries, the other did not.

One had had to hide at his neighbor's house, the other was chasing him.

However, both were held at police stations.

"He threw a suitcase at me and then harmed himself.

, regrets today

.

I threw a suitcase, self-harmed and was treated like a bar fight

For three years, he lived what he defines as a relationship between a wolf and a man.

“He started isolating me from my friends and family.

He told me it was his and no one else's," he reveals.

A classic beginning of abuse that is difficult to interpret for those affected absorbed in the idealization phase.

"Little by little I became a victim and control grew."

That courtship escalated between insults, beatings and sexual assaults.

"He entered me without warning when I was asleep."

Samuel denounces the isolation and abuse he suffered from his partner.EM

And he stops at one of the first attacks: "Once he grabbed my head and began to hit it against the corner of a closet."

After repeated attempts and threats, her partner reached the height of anger three times.

The first and second, she got away.

The third time, she beat him.

"I ran to take refuge in the neighbor's house."

She then went to the Police, but her case could not go forward due to the lack of judicial resources.

No data in Spain

In Spain, there are not even records of the figures for intra-gender violence, so that, in the best of cases, the complaints are processed as domestic violence.

Field studies estimate that it occurs in 26% of gay relationships and 33% in lesbians.

According to the intragender expert psychologist

, this is due to the fact that "psychological abuse occurs more frequently among women."

Patricia (not her

name) still shakes when she talks about the abusive relationship she had three years ago.

She "she" was the first woman she'd dated and she was excited.

She was a feminist and she liked the countryside like me.

I loved the way she was and I began to idealize her ».

A click away from starting to see each other, he was already with her in the same house, isolated from those close to her.

«The first time she gave me a host, I didn't react because I couldn't believe it.

We lived with more people who had warned me that I was violent, they listened to us and told me that I did not have to put up with that.

Soon the arguments evolved into beatings.

The verbal and physical abuse became sharper.

«She even threatened to kill me with knives.

She took her off me as she could ».

They had the pact of "an open relationship", but he specified: "Only she could be with others, because if she did not attack me.

She ended up imposing what she wanted ».

To have a sex that she no longer wanted, her partner coerced her.

"She had so much anxiety that I stayed in her bones."

The relationship was adding degrees of abuse until the pot capsized.

Patricia tried to run away many times and return to her family.

The hand of a psychologist helped him get out of the bottom of that closet of shame.

It started to hurt me, it cracked me... And I didn't dare report it

joins in the complaint

.

"I experienced intragender violence on four occasions, but only once as a couple."

With this sentence, he appeals to the cases between the LGTB collective without mediating a stable relationship.

Being very young, he suffered a sexual assault that still leaves him mental and physical scars.

«I met a guy I met online.

At first he was spoiled, but he started hurting me and I told him to stop ».

After an abuse, the rapist went down to the street "for breakfast" and locked up "his prey of him", which he called some friends and escaped.

"He left me with anal fissures and tendinitis in my neck and wrist, but I did not dare to report it."

Francisco was a pianist, but that experience distanced him from the keyboard «unlike

, to whom being a victim of pedophilia brought him closer to music ».

Today he is competing to teach at the conservatory.

Together with the psychologist Isabel González Sáez and other activists, he promotes a support group for abused homosexuals.

"We do not want to take away the rights of victims of gender violence, only that ours be recognized."

LGTBI people live hell as a couple that still remains in a legal limbo.

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