Gauthier Delomez 6:20 p.m., December 10, 2022

For several years, social services have given Sandra, a 40-year-old woman in a wheelchair from Gers, little time to see her son, who is now 7 years old.

In the free antenna of Europe 1, she evokes the repercussions that this situation has on her health, and denounces the lack of empathy of social assistance.

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At Olivier Delacroix's microphone that evening, Sandra, a 40-year-old Gersoise now in a wheelchair, explains that child welfare has prevented her from spending time with her 7-year-old child since several years because of his behavior and his past.

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forced separation which has consequences on his health.

Disputes with social services

"I saw my son for the last time in August, for an hour. Then my health worsened. I had severe post-traumatic stress after an argument with one of the child welfare workers. Since then, I have not seen my child again. Medical certificates were written on this spontaneous worsening of my health. This showed that I could not move around as I wished to go to the one-hour visits per month.

I could not go to the places that were offered to me, so I made a request so that I could receive at my home.

At that time, the social services tell me that they are not against it, and that I only have to ask the judge, which I did.

She sends me back her supposedly urgent prescription two and a half months later.

Then they tell me that ultimately they won't accept my home visits on the grounds that I don't get along with social services.

This justifies that a child who does not see his mother, cannot spend time with her."

Prohibition to see his son at his home

The listener explains that she sees her son “four or five hours during the year”, and that he has been placed since December 2021 with his father.

“I ask for the individual project and co-parenting, and I am not granted it”, explains Sandra, “when precisely, I would like to demonstrate that I am his mother even if I no longer have parental rights or authority. , and that I'm there for him. So, I don't agree that if something happens, my son goes back to a home or foster family when he has his mom for the welcome, on the pretext that I have medical difficulties."

La Gersoise argues that social services prevent her "from being able to go to a place that is an hour's drive from home, while the doctor says that I cannot travel more than ten kilometers from my home. They won't allow me to go to the house either. I'm supposed to see him tomorrow, but they still haven't found the place or a solution. They don't want to know anything, and they absolutely want me to go to this place. room an hour's drive away against medical advice."

"They made it personal"

Referring to her physical health, and the fact that she is accompanied every day, Sandra believes that she has "everything you need to take care of me and also to receive my child".

"The doctor certifies that when I see my son, my health improves (...). I am that the social services make it difficult for me to see my child. I even have a social director who says that I have to teach my child and myself to work on separation while they are there to work on family reunification."

"I found it very inappropriate on his part," continues the listener.

"It really affected me a lot and I don't understand this way of working. (...) The problem between the social services and me is that they made it a personal matter", believes- her, explaining that she had denounced the staff to the department "about the institutional mistreatment they subjected me or other families that I have met".

"We have two different groups of stakeholders: those who are for the return of children and who do a wonderful job, and those who are only there to show off."