Although most people understand social etiquette, and do not wish to offend anyone during their daily dealings, some of them - in fact - violate etiquette sometimes;
Whether by letting the elevator door close while someone rushes to catch up, or by not saying “please,” “thank you” or “excuse me.”
While spontaneous mistakes can pass, there are behaviors that may not be forgiven easily, even though we routinely do them without realizing it;
Especially after turning 40, "the age at which we have to know how to present ourselves properly," says etiquette coach Marianne Parker.
Hence the importance of having a common denominator that obliges us to be polite to make life easier in all areas;
By stopping etiquette mistakes, affecting others in ways we don't expect, making a person perceived as engaging in inappropriate behavior, causing others to be uncomfortable or embarrassed.
Adolescence
Although "the right way to get in and out is to be learned as a teenager," says etiquette expert Jacqueline Yost, there are still teens who are stuck at doors.
They are not patient to stand aside, to allow the exit of the elevator, bus, train, or any door.
They also ignore holding the door of a building, office or store to help those who enter directly behind them or to make room for those who exit at the same moment.
Noting that doing this work with someone who is still 10 meters away from you "would not be polite, because it would make him feel obligated to run to catch you."
neglect gratitude
Not thanking your host after any occasion can leave a bad impression on him even if you gave him a gift;
Initiating a call the next day to express gratitude and appreciation is "a nice touch and the right thing to do," according to etiquette expert Nora Lawlor.
Not thanking your host after any occasion can leave a bad impression on himself (Pixels)
Not only that, but etiquette also dictates that you send a thank you note after receiving a gift. "Don't forget to send a thank you card after receiving a gift," says Mary Bates Johnson, president of the California International Protocol Institute. "It's a powerful tool that makes you unforgettable."
disrespect
No blame on someone who remains seated when introduced to others, for reasons of health or old age, for example;
But etiquette in general dictates that you stand up when you introduce someone.
Despite the old opinion that women should remain seated while serving, standing today is better regardless of gender.
When you stand up to greet someone, "not only does it show that you're eager to meet and greet them, but it's also an easy way to show respect," says Bonnie Tsai, founder and director of an etiquette and protocol company.
phone on the table
If you are invited to dinner, for example, and the nature of your work does not require you to be prepared for an emergency call at any moment, keeping your phone on the table during dinner “is undoubtedly rude, and it leads to you appearing as not giving your host your full attention, and thus makes your friends feel uninformed. the satisfaction";
So, as difficult as it may be, Bates Johnson says, “in order to respect etiquette, have real conversations, and build serious relationships, it is important to put the phone away.”
Someone feels ignored
When you assume that your guests, friends, or group members at work know each other, you neglect introducing them to each other;
“You make them feel underappreciated, and you send a message to the unintroduced person that they don’t deserve to be recognized,” says Tony Dupree, founder and president of an etiquette training company.
The expert recommends Dupree that "people are introduced to each other, so that none of them feel neglected."
getting used to being late
The rhythm of life makes everyone late to leave the house or get stuck in traffic from time to time.
But this does not mean that you should not tell those waiting for you that you will not arrive on time;
It's an etiquette error. "Being late tells others that your time is more important than theirs," says Tsai.
So, if you are late, it is important to inform who is waiting for you and thank them for their patience when you arrive.
Pointing with the index finger directly is aggressive behavior (pixels).
Connect everything to your person
No one talks, even just for fun, to respond quickly to everything they say with a similar story that happened to you. “It sounds like you're being rude, and not listening effectively,” says Parker, who explains that listening skills are an important trait in building relationships. Constantly talking about ourselves too much, it never creates a positive impression."
Apologizing too much
Research conducted at Harvard Business School has indicated that we "may be apologetic, in order to build or maintain trust".
However, while it's important to take responsibility for your mistakes, "excessively apologizing can make it appear insincere and may put pressure on the other person," Parker says.
Etiquette in general dictates that you stand up if you are introduced to someone (pixels)
embarrassing situations for others
When you tell someone a ridiculous situation at some point, you might think it's just an opportunity to laugh, and you might enthusiastically relive that embarrassing moment, but Parker warns against "putting negative memories or bad situations back on the table."
Index finger
According to Bonnie Tassi, pointing your index finger directly at someone is "an accusatory gesture, aggressive behavior, and an absolute blunder in the etiquette world."
"There is no doubt that a gesture with an open palm will be more welcoming and neutral."