'Thank you, life', the praise for the duel of Lucía Benavente (Lucía Be), widow of the poet Miki Naranja

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Lucía Benavente is

Very followed on social networks, she is not an

to use, but many more things.

A journalist/illustrator/designer/businesswoman/community manager bordering on quarantine whose story has stuck in many of our hearts.

Lucía lost her husband,

, a year and a half ago to cancer.

And now she publishes a book about the grieving process but from the optimism, the

that characterizes the author so much.

But beware, she does it without hot cloths, without avoiding moments of absolute pain.

Because the author, above all, is a mother of four little children who, after this devastating blow that her life has given her, has discovered herself as a surfer, a skater, even as a host of her own podcast.

In

(Lunwerg), Lucía Benavente (known as Lucía Be) sings a song of joy in spite of everything, pushing forward even though the Amazon is crying inside.

It is a therapeutic book not only for the one who has written it, but for the reader, who through her

delves into the story of a girl who finds in love, in art and in the beauty of life its salvation.

We talked to Lucía about what is her third book, the most difficult of her life while climbing what she called "Everest", the illness and death of her husband.

But first we do moving, since

De Ella.

"As a child I lived in Ibiza and Valencia, then I studied in Pamplona, ​​then I went to Madrid... I moved to a town in Toledo for love, where Miki's work took us when we got married, then to Arroyomolinos. .. When Miki died I had to make a decision... I thought, well, I'm going to Las Rozas, I have friends there... But suddenly I felt the need to be near the sea and Valencia seemed like the best option. Going back to my parents' house, of course... But there I have an infrastructure that I don't have elsewhere.

.

His grandparents, uncles, cousins...".

Coincidentally, Lucia had never been on a surfboard before in her life.

"She told myself, You're crazy!, but I tried and now I'm hooked. Living near the sea relaxes me a lot, it gives me a lot of peace...".

There, at his home in Valencia, he wrote

.

In just three weeks "The delivery date was January 20. Life, children, work did not give me. And I did not feel like what I had to face either.

... been telling a story... People knew what had happened and couldn't help but talk about it. What I wanted was to tell it from a new Lucía, that's why I've returned to Benavente, my last name. I wanted to tell it in a way that was true . Of course, in my own way, and what I wanted, not everything. I tell 10% of the story, the rest is mine."

Lucía narrates in the book until

She does it with a heartbreaking tear, however she brushes it off and takes it in stride.

"I don't want to be the widow of Spain, I didn't want anyone to put me in a drawer, that's why I've written it in the book. Probably in the future I'll be with someone else. And I don't like being reproached for it, or being send messages every moment that Miki will always ride with me, that she's always there... I'm not comfortable with that concept."

Lucía has been on the networks for years telling a part of her life, but

, that's why during the mourning of her husband's death she made a lot of content disappear from her profiles, to protect herself and her family.

"When I receive criticism of my collection I don't care, but when they touch my intimate relationship with my family I get a pantojil vein... People are very daring commenting and appropriating your story. Now I try to put a parapet, we are all vulnerable and I lowered the degree of exhibition. I would like to say that I am above the

but I am not "...

For this woman orchestra who reaches almost everything as she can,

, but also the children (lifelong pain relief), the psychiatrist, the psychologist... "Because now we go to therapy family. I used to go to the psychiatrist before, to fit everything in, but now I also go to therapy with my children to give them tools... The more they help you, the easier they make everything...".

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The mourning for the death of Miki, Lucía's "amore" (that's how she referred to him on networks), began three and a half years ago, when they were given the lethal diagnosis.

"With children you have no choice but to push forward, but without them I think it would also have been easier because I would have been able to take better care of myself," says Lucía Benavente.

In

, several lessons are learned through Lucía's photos and comments, which start practically since her husband began receiving treatments.

"

. For anyone it is very hard to live with a sick person, for some children, more... Before they did not have their parents, all day in hospitals, now they have me at least to me... Writing the book has been very therapeutic but also very hard, because I have quickly revisited a year lived. What I also wanted was to get something beautiful out of it".

Lucía is a

, she achieves everything she sets out to do.

Now she is into surfing and skateboarding, she also wants to start a music group with her little brother.

"A month after writing the book I fell apart," recalls Lucía.

"I have not reread it, writing it was cathartic and exhausted me, but I know that I have to face it again and with a little perspective. I see it as a funnel of everything that has helped me during this year and a half, it

.... Miki's last summer I read Emily Dickinson and Enrique García-Maíquez in the hospital, everyday poems but full of hope. I also

."

The whole family found their "absolute refuge" in culture, also in "art and beauty. For me, life is ephemeral and art is eternal."

He also found refuge in God

.

"I'm a believer, I'm not more skeptical since Miki's death. It's the gift of faith. I do believe but I'm not better than anyone for that. I have faith but I don't know why. I know it's true and I know there's something beyond. Perhaps I am at a time in which just as I redefine my life, I am also looking for a way to fit that faith, because perhaps what I have lived makes things not fit. The fact that God is there and that he takes care of you me in low moments has helped me a lot.

".

In

Lucía transforms tragedy into something beautiful.

She is at peace and there is nothing more beautiful than that.

"I'm happy because I know I was there and I don't have any grounds left.

. "

Now she is a single-parent mother, she is focused on her work.

She has to keep the four beasts from her.

"I want the course to finish and cut extra expenses. To be able to take care of more projects that don't make as much money but that I like a lot. My brother's group, painting... Launch a website with the possibility of buying work. Create a space that opens those doors that I have opened the book ajar. I would love to know what can come out of there".

The next thing is to write fiction.

There is nothing that can stop Lucía Benavente after everything she has lived through.

You can buy his book here.

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