“I feel others hate me all the time”, “I am not a desirable person”, such negative thoughts control some of them, and they come into their minds when interacting with others, and negatively affect their self-confidence and their social relationships.
While this may not be the case at all, these thoughts stem from other disorders.
Those who suffer from such thoughts tend to isolate themselves, as they fear being among a group of people;
fearing that they will talk negatively about him later, and over-analyze what is being said to him;
In search of hidden meaning.
"Almost everyone, at some point, felt that no one liked them," psychotherapist Anita Shlipala told Very Well Mind. varying".
There is no medical definition for believing that everyone hates you, but there are some psychological explanations for how you feel, including:
Cognitive distortions
Cognitive distortions refer to irrational thought patterns that many people suffer from that affect their perception of reality, and a 2015 study described them as "a lie that our brain sends to our conscious mind."
Here are some negative thinking patterns that can lead you to believe that everyone hates you:
All or nothing:
A polarized thinker assumes that all things are either black or white, and sees that the people in his life either love or hate him, and if they seem somewhat upset, with or without reason, they hate him and do not want to deal with him. .
Intimidation:
turning anything small into a disaster. If your best friend doesn't call you for a day or two, you may assume that he no longer cares about you.
Personalization:
This cognitive distortion leads to the belief that you are responsible for all external events, and is often suffered by those who think that everyone hates him, because it makes them look at each situation personally.
If your friend tells you that he will call you and does not, this does not mean that he is angry with you, but perhaps an emergency situation happened to him, and this has nothing to do with you or anything you said or did.
Mind reading:
It is the assumption that someone hates you or that he has other negative thoughts about you, although he did not say anything to indicate that, but you are trying to read his thoughts and search for the hidden meaning.
Excessive generalization:
making a rule based on one experience, and applying it to all situations, regardless of their changing circumstances. If your relationship with your friend changes for any reason, you begin to judge all your relationship that it will change, and no one will stay with you.
These cognitive distortions and other irrational patterns of thinking require training to correct the way you think.
Loneliness can make you feel like everyone hates you (Pixabay)
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According to Psychcentral, a mental health website, loneliness can cause you to feel that everyone hates you, and that your friends resent you and don't want to communicate with you.
Low self-confidence
Believing that no one loves you may be linked to low self-esteem, which makes you think that you are not worthy of love.
bullying
Bullying leaves many negative psychological effects on young people and adults, including the belief that the victim of bullying is rejected and everyone hates him.
Mental and psychological disorders
Certain mental and psychological disorders contribute to amplifying negative perceptions, including depression, anxiety, and bipolar disorder.
Psychological hypersensitivity
Hypersensitive people may also tend to feel that everyone hates them, and research published in 2018 showed that hypersensitive people are more negatively affected when they receive vague responses or negative reactions, which affect their self-esteem.
Hypersensitive people may also tend to feel that everyone hates them (pixels)
How do you face these thoughts?
Some strategies may help you feel better about yourself and how others view you, including:
Look for the facts
Think of facts only, not assumptions based on speculation;
If your wife does not answer the phone, you may think that she does not care about you, but this is an assumption, and the truth here is that she did not answer her phone only, not your call.
To find out the real reason, you must review the person concerned, and often you will find that the real reasons have nothing to do with the feelings of others towards you.
See the situation from the other person's perspective
Try to look at the situation that made you feel that someone hates you from the perspective of the other person. If you see your friend in the "mall" and he did not greet you, you can think that he did not see you, or his mind was confused and did not pay attention, and did not mean to ignore you.
Don't try to read minds
People who think others hate them often think that every other person's actions and words have a hidden meaning, and try to read what other people are thinking.
Instead of reading minds, you can try to take other people's words at face value, without thinking beyond them;
If your friend doesn't want to go out with you and says he's tired, that means he's tired, not that he's running away from you.
love for your brother what you love for yourself
You are also likely to forget your friend's birthday or miss some important details, in which case you will not want others to interpret your behavior as mistrust or take a position against you assuming that you intended it, and you wish they had apologized to you or reviewed you before explaining your behavior, also try to do with them.
The offense is not your fault
What if you verify the real reasons that caused you to feel hate and find that others have already offended you or deliberately ignored you, that does not mean that you deserve hate, because whoever intentionally offends others is the one who is at fault, not you, and try to avoid dealing with him.