"I'm not good at anything", you may have pioneered this idea before, or you constantly come up with it until you are completely convinced of it and act on its merits.

Perhaps this idea came to you when you were young trying to figure out a career you would like or basically guess your life purpose.

It can also happen when you feel that you are not living a meaningful life or that you are on a different path than you wanted for yourself.

You may have other thoughts such as “I have no talents”, “I am not interesting and no one cares about me”, “There is no point in trying to be good at anything”, “Everyone around me is happy and successful”, “I will not be good at school or Never work", "I'm a failure".

Engaging in negative self-talk can have powerful effects on our mental health (pixels)

It is important to understand that these types of thoughts are just thoughts, and do not necessarily reflect the reality of your life.

Feeling that you are not good at anything is an indication that you suffer from low self-esteem and poor self-image, and this is often associated with feelings of anxiety and depression, affects your performance and your experience in education and work, and can negatively affect your personal relationships.

Some people quickly get rid of these thoughts and move on with life, and some people get so caught up in their thoughts that this type of thinking becomes overwhelming and difficult to overcome.

How are your negative thoughts formed?

According to the Very WellMind website, negative thoughts usually form as a result of the following things:

  • comparison game

The feeling that you don't have any talent or something to stand out often comes when you compare yourself to others.

You might look at social media or television, magazines, and the news and feel that everyone you see is successful, self-confident, and seems to have found their purpose in life.

  • Playing your failure in the past

You probably think a lot about a time when you tried to pursue your interests in the past and somehow failed.

You might think about the times you received low grades in school, the times you were disappointed by others, or the times you felt underappreciated.

  • Inability to try new things

You might be thinking about trying something new or taking up a hobby that you think you might enjoy, but your negative thoughts are holding you back.

You may visualize yourself well at something for a moment, and then immediately overwhelm you with negative thoughts and fail again.

The reason people always think about failure is a product of personality traits, upbringing and life experiences (pixels)

  • low self-esteem

According to the American Psychological Association (APA), low self-esteem is perhaps the most common trigger for such negative thoughts about oneself.

Low self-esteem reflects a person's self-image, and their view of their accomplishments and abilities.

  • Negative talk about yourself

Engaging in negative self-talk can have powerful effects on our mental health and can increase anxiety and depression, while people who adopt more optimistic attitudes to life experience greater physical and mental well-being as well as improved quality of life.

  • relations

The people close to us can have powerful influences on how we see ourselves and what we perceive as our strengths and weaknesses.

Being in a close relationship with someone who is quick to bring you down, or who thinks that you are untalented, or worthless in some way can negatively affect your self-esteem.

  • childhood trauma

Negative childhood experiences or trauma can have lifelong effects on self-esteem and self-image.

How do you stop thinking bad thoughts and overcome your social anxiety?

Here are some other simple techniques that may help you feel better about yourself.

Negative childhood experiences or trauma can have lifelong effects (Getty Images)

Get to know the causes

Often the reason someone has these thoughts is a combination of personality traits, upbringing, and life experiences.

Understanding the cause of these thoughts will help you figure out how to get past them.

Know what you are good at

Everyone is good at something, whether it's cooking, singing, or making friends, and we also tend to enjoy the things we're good at.

Try to find your points of excellence and enjoy them.

Building positive relationships

If you find that certain people tend to bring you down, try spending less time with them, or tell them how you feel about their words or actions.

Try to build relationships with people who are positive and value you.

be kind to yourself

Be kind to yourself when you feel like you're being critical of yourself. Think about what you might say to a friend in a similar situation.

We often give better advice to others than we do ourselves.

Set a new goal and challenge

We all feel stressed or afraid to do new things, but people with good self-esteem don't let these feelings stop them from trying new things or facing challenges.

Set yourself a goal, and try to achieve it;

This will help you increase your self-esteem.

Everyone makes mistakes at inevitable moments in life, and that doesn't mean you're a bad person (Getty Images)

Use phrases of hope

The Mayo Clinic advises the importance of treating yourself with kindness and encouragement. Try telling yourself things like, "Although this is difficult, I can handle it easily."

forgive yourself

Everyone makes mistakes, they are inevitable moments in life. Tell yourself, "I made a mistake, but that doesn't mean I'm a bad person."