Among the dozens of educational mistakes that mothers may make while raising their children, specialists have found 7 common mistakes that most parents all over the world commit.
Because of its prevalence, specialists classified it, and determined it to stop in front of it for a few moments and undo its commitment with children in order to grow up with healthy and balanced personalities and psyches.
unrealistic expectations
According to the Very Well Family, this often happens when a mother is frustrated or impatient with her two-year-old who still isn't interested in potty training, a 6-year-old bed-wetting, or moody teenager
The mother must make sure that her expectations match what her children are able to do realistically.
A mother needs to make sure her expectations match what her children can actually and realistically do (Getty Images)
No rules, no limits
A mother may think she is doing the right thing with her children if she allows them to do what they want, but most younger children find it difficult to live without any limits.
Having rules, setting boundaries, a consistent routine, and offering limited options helps you know and anticipate what your child will do throughout the day.
Always save them from failure
Some mothers have a hard time watching their children struggle with challenges, and would prefer that they get over them easily for them.
Facing challenges is essential even if they fail. Failure is a huge part of success, and if a mother does not give children the opportunity to learn the lessons that come with failure, they will never develop the perseverance they need to rise again after a setback.
For example, if a child does poorly in school, and the mother does his homework, it will only be counterproductive, because she cannot be in the classroom with him when he has to complete those tests alone.
expect perfect
It is natural for every mother to want her child to strive for big goals, to be the best in everything, but this is not the best way.
A high expectation and unfulfillment of a child can lead to problems with self-esteem and confidence later in life.
The mother must ensure that the expectations are realistic and not imaginary, and that each child has his abilities and potentials, as well as his individual distinction.
She should also realize that the failures and setbacks that her child faces will continue to teach him valuable lessons in life, and prepare him for how to succeed the next time.
Praise and praise
It is natural for a mother to be the biggest cheerleader for her child, but specialists have emphasized that children should be praised for their efforts, and not for the end result as most mothers do.
According to Business Insider, too much praise can lead to children needing to get praise from others all the time, and it can also make them feel constantly pressured to achieve results.
Children should be praised for their efforts and not for the end result, as most mothers do (Pixabe)
Solve their personal problems
It is difficult for a mother to see her child being exposed to problems by his peers, and although there are times when it is necessary to intervene to organize the way of communication between children, the child in many other times must be left to solve these problems by himself, until he has the ability to deal with Others, testing problems and developing means of solving them, as this enhances his individual and personal skills and develops them in a healthy and good manner.
Yelling and verbal threats
Children make many unjustified mistakes and foolishness, which sometimes pushes the mother to get out of her sense and start screaming at the child and threatening him with punishment.
It may not go beyond only venting the anger that the mother had as a result of bad behavior by the child, but the matter is more heavy and harsh on the child.
According to Parents, screaming leaves permanent negative effects on the child, as it makes him feel inferior and lack of self-esteem and makes his personality aggressive, and the constant screaming breaks the bonds and distorts the relationship between the mother and her child, and makes him more vulnerable to depression and anxiety.
Instead, the mother should calm her outburst of anger before talking to her child or admonishing him, whether by washing her face with water and taking a deep breath, or sitting alone in her room until she calms down and then directing the child and talking to him calmly.