When you start noticing that your son is sitting in his room all the time, it is a strong indication that you will join the rest of the parents who suffer from their children's isolation once they are a little older.

Almost all parents of teens deal with the problem of how to get their son to spend time with the family and get him out of his room.

It's true that we as parents have a tendency to worry about everything, but when a teen starts isolating himself in his bedroom, we start thinking: Is he depressed?

Did something happen he didn't tell me about?

is this normal?

Have I lost my baby forever?

But before you freak out, try not to worry too much, and according to Dr. Peter Marshall - child psychologist and author of "Now I Know Why Tigers Eat Their Pups" - keeping your child in his room is essential, because teens actually spend a large part of their time thinking and trying to figure out who they are And who they want to become.

Teens have a lot to do and they need the space to do it, however it is very frustrating for parents, we miss our children and we want to be with them.

How do we get the teenager out of his room?

You can threaten him to join the rest of the family, but if you really want him to come out of his room of his own accord, all you have to do is three things, according to raisingteenstoday.

the food

Teens love food, whether it's grilled meat, a box of fresh muffins, a batch of homemade brownies, or their favorite home-cooked meal, so one of the best ways to get your teen out of his room is to satisfy his appetite.

Fresh air

Nothing clears the mind faster, relieves stress, or puts life and all its daily stresses into perspective more than a day in the fresh air and sunshine.

Teens need plenty of fresh air even though they don't realize it, help them escape their bedrooms by planning outdoor adventures.

One of the best ways ever to get your teen out of his room is to satisfy his needs for good food (Getty Images)

Fun

Teens are notorious for having a short attention span, which means they get bored quickly, and teens often stay in their bedrooms because there is nothing better to do outside of them. in planning it.

Donna Novak, who specializes in working with teens and their families, points to 4 important strategies that help teens get out of their rooms and improve their relationships with parents:

  • Brainstorming with them


    Often we bring up our agenda to our children, what we think should and shouldn't be, and what we're going to do on the weekend, but with teenagers it's not like that, because we'll lose them if we don't give them what they aspire to, when Bring your ideas to them. Talk about the things they like to do.

  • Sharing them wherever they are the


    key is to join them wherever they are, for example if they are in a certain video game, you might have to play it with them, let them teach you.

    If they watch YouTube, subscribe to them and talk to each other.

    The most important thing is that you join them.

  • Get to know their true feelings It


    can be hard to understand what's going on in a teen's mind, especially when they keep some things to themselves, don't respond to us as parents, and don't get out of their isolation, but what needs to be taken into account is the importance of real understanding what the feelings behind it all are, are they worried? About if they're going to lose their best friends?

    Maybe they are afraid of what other people think of them?


    When you are able to access the true feelings they have, you can understand their behavior and understanding, and you will also know better how to develop their desire to spend more time with family.

  • Set some rules for using electronics


    Most teens are preoccupied with their electronic devices, whether social media, Netflix, or others, all of which are ways that absorb their time and affect their convictions, it is true that restricting electronics time will anger them, but it is necessary for their own good.

  • Be realistic and


    vulnerable

    with them

    When you find yourself irritable with your teen for his weak response to you and his only one-word answers to you, ask yourself: What is really bothering you?

    Perhaps in fact you are sad, lonely, or afraid of losing your little girl as she grows up, when you are vulnerable with yourself and your teen, you allow more space for communication and less emotion, get to the root of what is really happening, and communicate your true feelings to them.

    Set some rules for using electronics (Pixabe)

Simple ideas to stay together

Raising teens today offers these simple tips for spending quality time with your teen:

  • Ask him to co-cook his favorite meal so you can teach him a thing or two about cooking, bake him anything with chocolate, and go to his favorite restaurant with him.

  • If possible, take him and his friends to an amusement park, or have them attend an indoor party for their best friends.

  • Play his favorite TV show or let him choose something he'd like to do.

  • Teach him something he wanted to learn, or you could build something together.

  • Sign him up for a gym membership and encourage him to get his fitness improvement, and compete with him in the 5K run.

  • Take him to the movies, surprise him with tickets to a sports game or concert, take him on a little shopping spree.

  • Update his bedroom, let him choose paint, shop for new accessories, and teach him how to fish.

Conditions for staying in the room

  • Explain to your child that to stay in the room, the curtains must be open or the lights on, except for sleeping, of course.

  • You should get out of the room every half hour to move and have a glass of water.

  • With an important clarification that the father and mother can come at any time and check the history of the browser and the chats he makes.

  • Finally, keep asking about him and don't give up, and he should know we really want him with us.