"Parent Gacha" When I hit a topical word, September 24, 15:40
When I first heard it, I was shocked.
It is a "parent gacha".
"Parents can't choose by themselves" is a word that compares it to the "Gacha" in the toy department and social games.
"I'm lucky to know what's going on, but in principle I can spin the gacha once in my life."
"
I liken my
parents to things ..." , Opinions about parent gacha were flying around here and there.
(Network News Department Reporter Naoko Okubo Yu Suzuki Hokuto Takasugi Video Center Shoko Tashiro)
I'm a parent gacha failer
Parent gacha is especially talked about on the net.
It was used like this.
"I have failed my parent gacha. I wanted to be born in a richer house. I don't want to live in such a poor life
."
When I read it, I felt something stuffy for me (Okubo), who is also a parent, and I felt that there were many voices about the financial situation of my family.
On the other hand, some people said that they would use it when they were being abused or over-controlled by their parents.
"After experiencing abuse and neglect, say that parent gacha fails."
"I really don't like the tendency of parent gacha to be told only by the word" whether it is poor or not. "
There was also an opinion that "I want you to think about why the word was popular", and people from various positions appeared and analyzed the background of the topic of parent gacha.
First of all, we all went out to the city and asked what it would be like in real life.
I say it in dirty words, but I really like moms
The first people I spoke to were high school students, and what was surprising (although this phrase is a bit rude) was that many people said, "I don't know," "I don't use it," or "I've only seen it online." ..
I've heard a
high school boy
YouTuber say that I
don't use that word at all around me, but that's what I mean by "Kamibiki".
The high school girl trio was intense.
High school girls
parent gacha has been played online, so I've heard about it.
I also quarrel with my mom every day, but I really love her.
I love boys who
have the most delicious lunch boxes for moms,
because "noisy baa" is "I love moms" in my heart
The story went on and on, and it became my encouragement party with three boys.
One of the 12 high school students I interviewed said that they only see it online and don't use it around them.
I think the parent gacha is a dissatisfied spout
When I asked a person in his twenties when he was a little older, there was a woman who said he was using it.
There was a time when my parents thought it was emotional, and I didn't like it, and when I quarreled with my parents, I said, "My parents have failed."
My friend has more pocket money than me. I used to use it when I was getting a lot of stuff.
Recently, my relationship with my parents has become so good that I haven't said it at all.
At that time, I think I was casually complaining about the word "parent gacha."
A man in his twenties who was with him analyzed the parent gacha that he might use it to convince his dissatisfaction due to the influence of SNS.
When the busy in bytes, playing to see the students are have been used like a "I was that guy parent Gacha success"
is that the old days I it did not know and do not go to a friend's house, now others in the SNS of the home, is not it became as can be seen in the situation of
when compared so with others, and yourself will come out negative emotions become word "parent gacha"
the dissatisfaction of the day-to-day life, parent It's not bad, but it hits my parents.
Maybe you're trying to convince yourself that your parents were bad
It feels like a lubricant that builds relationships
We also asked experts who are familiar with the social consciousness of young people.
I am Professor Yoshitaka Doi of the University of Tsukuba.
Parent gacha has been heard among students over the last few years, saying that there is a gap in language perception between the younger generation and the parent generation.
Today's young people tend to avoid saying something serious because it puts a strain on the other person.
For example, rather than saying "because we are poor" straightforwardly, saying "I'm out of the parent gacha" makes it a little softer, and it makes it easier for the listener to react.
I feel like a lubricant to build a relationship
(Reporter)
What about the parents' generation?
And for the top of the generation referred to as a "parent Gacha", Toka has smeared the responsibility to the parent, it may be that you feel to be abandoned his effort
off the parent Gacha do I have in mind It does not mean that you are blaming or imposing responsibility on your parents.
You don't say that it's the gacha's responsibility even if it comes off the toy gacha.
I want you to think of it as an expression that conveys the feeling that there is something in front of you that you cannot exceed with your own abilities.
It may be easy to talk about the difficulty of living
(Reporter)
There are voices on the net complaining about a more serious situation.
Professor Doi
Well, it is true that there are people who have to speak with the word "parent gacha".
It must be understood that people in such a harsh family environment, such
as being abused by their parents or not being sent to school,
want to use such words.
It may be easier to talk about how difficult it is to live
(Reporter) The
phrase "parents can't choose their children" has been around for a long time, so why did it get so much attention now?
There may be an aspect that the net has developed so much that it has become easier to compare yourself with others, and the
evaluation is unstable in modern times.
For example, I don't know if the company I belong to will survive 5 or 10 years.
When I don't know if the attributes I have acquired in society will be effective in the future,
what is the one that never shakes?
The word "parent gacha" may be used as the outlook on life that puts emphasis on it spreads.
There was a person who really wanted to hear the story
When I heard the word "parent gacha", I really wanted to hear the story.
It is an independence support home "Hoshi no Ie" in Utsunomiya City.
Children who cannot live with their parents due to abuse and financial rigors live here.
Toshihiko Hoshi and his wife Miho, who were staff members of an orphanage so that they can become independent in society, continue to operate and support, and the words of an interview with a 17-year-old child who lived here more than 10 years ago I can't forget it.
This is the same word when I asked Jun-san, who grew up in the facility from the age of two, about his parents.
Jun-san In my
case, I've never seen my parents.
never seen.
I have never met.
I don't know how many siblings there are.
Then I think the opposite.
If I couldn't raise it, I shouldn't have been born on the contrary.
If I had a fight, I would say "a child without a parent".
It will be absolute.
A child without a parent has a slightly different image.
It's a little different from a child in a general household.
Isn't it bad?
Just because you don't have a parent will change.
The way you see it will change.
You can't choose a parent
Mr. and Mrs. Hoshi, who have been in contact with many children who have mixed feelings toward their parents, like Jun.
When
asked
about parent gacha,
Miho started talking, saying
,
"Children can't choose their parents, which is often talked about at Hoshi no Ie."
Miho There
are parents
who
abuse and abandon childcare.
Every time I heard that it was strict because of discipline, he said, "It was the parents who decided to become parents, and the children could not choose their parents."
Even without the word parent gacha, we feel that way every day.
Miho suddenly remembered a scene with the word "parent gacha".
It was when my husband Toshihiko was talking to the children.
You can't choose your parents.
It's a coincidence that you're born in a happy house, or in a house that's messed up and on the verge of collapse.
You guys "accidentally" were born in that kind of house
Miho-san, who was listening on the side, was surprised.
My husband used the light word "accidentally" to say, "I can do anything from now on." "If you want to be happy or want to go to the brighter side, you can go there." I thought,
"Our adults were born in a better family than the children who happened to come to the house of the stars, and that's what happened. That's why we did something. Instead of giving it, if there is a gaping hole in the children's chest, I have to do something to fill it. "
"It happens" like a gacha
Toshihiko has been living with children at Hoshi no Ie for about seven years while fighting Parkinson's disease and has been supporting him.
This time, when I interviewed the word "parent gacha", I learned again how children feel about their parents.
The word may include expectations and disappointments for parents, sometimes indulgence for parents, and frustration for oneself that does not go well.
On the other hand, I also heard from adults that there are children who are in a difficult situation that cannot be explained by the word "parent gacha" and that they are trying to support it.
As Mr. Hoshi says, we may be living in the current situation "by chance" just like gacha.
“It happens that the current situation is changing, and it must be possible to change it.”
Finally, I was interviewed with that in mind.
afterwards
星の家でインタビューに答えたくれた当時17歳の純さん。ずっと手放さないものがひとつありました。
母子手帳です。
「つながり、これしかないんすよ」と言って見せてくれたのを思い出します。
純さんに久しぶりに連絡すると、近況を教えてくれました。
施設を出たあと、職を転々として、車上生活も半年ほどしたそうです。
どん底だと思っていたそうです。
20歳のころ、つきあっていた女性の親に「せめて高校くらい行っていればいいのに」と言われたのが“胸をえぐられるくらいショック（純さん）”で、23歳で通信制の高校に入ることにしました。
そんな時、自分の戸籍を用意することになり、母親の本籍を知りました。
母親の名前や本籍を見ているうちに会いに行こうと思うようになり、見たことのない親を探し始めました。
2,3年かけて、ようやく母親のきょうだいにたどりつくことができました。
母親のことを聞いてみました。
（純さん）
「でも母は亡くなっていたんです。おれが探している2,3年の間に死んじゃったんです」
母親に捨てられたという思いがあったはずですが、号泣したそうです。
17歳で純さんを産み、手放さなければならなくなった事情も知りました。
「どこか吹っ切れた」と純さんは話していました。
高校は26歳で卒業し、いま配達や営業の仕事をする正社員となり、“天職だ（純さん）”と思っているそうです。
『親ガチャ』のことばは、知りませんでしたがこんな話をしていました。
"Toka there are no parents, said much Toka facilities of a child, I thought all the way I" world unfair but ""
I say, "But," you can not choose a parent ", is not it not choose the I Datte around Even so, the people around me, such as Hoshi no Ie and the people I met at work, supported me. That's why I have now. Even if I'm a parent gacha, it may change depending on my feelings and my way of life. I don't know. "
" Well, I think I'm using parent gacha as a glue, "he told me such a story.