In psychology, it is said that in a period of no more than 7 minutes, we can tell whether the person we are dealing with is emotionally intelligent or not.
But what traits should we consider to determine the emotional intelligence of those around us?
In a report published by the Spanish magazine "Lamenteesmaravillosa", author Valeria Spatter says that emotional intelligence differs from cognitive intelligence, and is mainly centered on the ability to express feelings, control emotions and adapt to different situations.
And the expert in emotional intelligence, Daniel Goleman, confirms that it is easy to identify a person with low emotional intelligence compared to others, as this group of people is characterized by noisy behavior, irritability, drifting behind stimuli, and the difficulty of forming successful social relationships.
But what traits reveal to us about a person with a great deal of emotional intelligence?
psychological measures
Scientific research since the late 1990s has focused on identifying specific psychological measures to assess emotional intelligence, including research conducted at the University of Queensland, and these scales have continued to be developed today.
There are people who have an exceptional ability to communicate and impress others, express themselves distinctly, and present arguments brilliantly, sometimes without leaving room for others to comment and express their opinions.
These tools help us assess the level of emotional intelligence of the people around us.
The person with emotional intelligence takes into account the reactions of others, and does not lose eye contact (pixels)
Emotional intelligence score
In general, this type of person can impress us, but some points must be taken into account to assess the extent of emotional intelligence, and the following are the most prominent of those traits:
Good listening to others.
Argue in a confident manner while respecting the ideas of others.
Take into account the reactions of others, and not lose eye contact.
empathy.
Understand what is going on around oneself and show positive feedback that enriches the discussion.
He may be angry, sad, or disappointed, but he knows how to control his emotions.
rational thinking
It is easy to recognize a person with emotional intelligence, when we see their handling of problems, complex situations, disagreements, and mistakes.
An emotionally intelligent person may feel upset, but he does not rush to react quickly, but rather thinks rationally before doing anything.
An emotionally intelligent person transmits doses of positive energy to others regardless of how they are feeling (Pixabe)
Social Communication Skills
Social skills go beyond good communication with others. Other traits include:
Accept criticism and reaction without hurting the feelings of others.
Deal rationally with feelings of hostility and hatred.
The ability to think logically to solve problems.
Good handling in a negative environment.
Transfer doses of positive energy to others regardless of how they are feeling.
Distinctive negotiation.
Knowing how to apologize when you make a mistake.
Firmness in defending their rights and the rights of others.
If you feel comfortable expressing yourself without fear of being judged negatively, you are dealing with an emotionally intelligent person (Pixabe).
They make you feel comfortable
There is an easy key to getting to know a person with emotional intelligence, just try to assess how you feel about them. If you feel comfortable expressing yourself without fear of being judged negatively, you are dealing with an emotionally intelligent person.
In fact, emotional intelligence provides a fertile environment for enhanced self-esteem and a sense of self-respect and psychological security, so it is important to get to know the kind of people you can fully trust.