He is one of the psychologists who sells the most books in our country.
Now he publishes 'Without fear', a manual that helps to overcome anxiety and panic attacks, which have been triggered by the Covid pandemic.
How do we live without fear? Human beings are losing their ability to deal with fear, but they have the obligation to conquer it because they generate it very easily. We have to relearn to face our fears as did the conquerors of Mexico, who went to battle without knowing if they would see another day. We must exercise that ability to nullify fears or we run the risk of being dominated. Has Covid exacerbated panic and anxiety attacks? They have increased by 30%. It's a barbarity. We have never had so much work. It is overwhelming, brutal. There are not enough psychologists to treat this wave of emotional and mental problems. What is the most generalized difficulty? We are experiencing a problem of post-traumatic stress, which in the United States they know very well. There,soldiers die 20 times more after war than in war. Years later, those soldiers commit suicide and shoot themselves because what happened follows them. And we are living it now. The trauma that was experienced during the first months of the pandemic has left a mark. Mental health continues to be questioned. What would you say to the PP deputy who rebuked Errejón when he spoke about the issue in Congress? Mental health is already the second most important medical problem in the West, but soon it will be the first. He is about to make the sorpasso of physical illness. A pandemic of emotional problems is looming. We were looking for safety at all costs and it was blown up by the coronavirus. A little bit of security is good, but too much is bad. Just like chocolate.The exaggerated search for safety is impossible and nullifies life. The way to be happy is to live with insecurity and the possibility of death. Many people with anxiety are crammed with anxiolytics. Are they useful for something? 95% of the anxiolytics that are consumed are poorly prescribed and poorly consumed. In cases of anxiety disorders, not only do they not work, but they are fuel for the disorder and a trap. When you take an anxiolytic, you reinforce your mind in the idea that there is a real danger. There is the paradox that a person can take 10 anxiolytics a day and be on the nerves, much more than when they did not take any. There is a silenced anxiolytic addiction problem because people are ashamed to talk about it and the medical and pharmaceutical class prefers not to talk about it.Are people hooked on anxiolytics because of doctors? Yes, all doctors know this. But it is something on which it is preferred not to touch. You claim self-therapy. How is it practiced? You need a guide and the same as if you did therapy with a professional: a lot of perseverance, willpower, the desire to get out of there and activate your ability to transform yourself. Is it possible to get out of these crises without the direct help of a professional and just by reading a book? It is difficult, but millions of people have done it around the world. You need to have the exit plane of the maze. Actually, the psychologist encourages you to do this process, but the patient is the one who does 95%. No one is going to save you. Not your family or your boyfriend or your psychologist. You have to save yourself.all doctors know this. But it is something on which it is preferred not to touch. You claim self-therapy. How is it practiced? You need a guide and the same as if you did therapy with a professional: a lot of perseverance, willpower, the desire to get out of there and activate your ability to transform yourself. Is it possible to get out of these crises without the direct help of a professional and just by reading a book? It is difficult, but millions of people have done it around the world. You need to have the exit plane of the maze. Actually, the psychologist encourages you to do this process, but the patient is the one who does 95%. No one is going to save you. Not your family or your boyfriend or your psychologist. You have to save yourself.all doctors know this. But it is something on which it is preferred not to touch. You claim self-therapy. How is it practiced? You need a guide and the same as if you did therapy with a professional: a lot of perseverance, willpower, the desire to get out of there and activate your ability to transform yourself. Is it possible to get out of these crises without the direct help of a professional and just by reading a book? It is difficult, but millions of people have done it around the world. You need to have the exit plane of the maze. Actually, the psychologist encourages you to do this process, but the patient is the one who does 95%. No one is going to save you. Not your family or your boyfriend or your psychologist. You have to save yourself.How is it practiced? You need a guide and the same as if you did therapy with a professional: a lot of perseverance, willpower, the desire to get out of there and activate your ability to transform yourself. Is it possible to get out of these crises without the direct help of a professional and just by reading a book? It is difficult, but millions of people have done it around the world. You need to have the exit plane of the maze. Actually, the psychologist encourages you to do this process, but the patient is the one who does 95%. No one is going to save you. Not your family or your boyfriend or your psychologist. You have to save yourself.How is it practiced? You need a guide and the same as if you did therapy with a professional: a lot of perseverance, willpower, the desire to get out of there and activate your ability to transform yourself. Is it possible to get out of these crises without the direct help of a professional and just by reading a book? It is difficult, but millions of people have done it around the world. You need to have the exit plane of the maze. Actually, the psychologist encourages you to do this process, but the patient is the one who does 95%. No one is going to save you. Not your family or your boyfriend or your psychologist. You have to save yourself.Is it possible to get out of these crises without the direct help of a professional and just by reading a book? It is difficult, but millions of people have done it around the world. You need to have the exit plane of the maze. Actually, the psychologist encourages you to do this process, but the patient is the one who does 95%. No one is going to save you. Not your family or your boyfriend or your psychologist. You have to save yourself.Is it possible to get out of these crises without the direct help of a professional and just by reading a book? It is difficult, but millions of people have done it around the world. You need to have the exit plane of the maze. Actually, the psychologist encourages you to do this process, but the patient is the one who does 95%. No one is going to save you. Not your family or your boyfriend or your psychologist. You have to save yourself.
You use the metaphor of the sewer in the book. Can you explain it to me? If you go to work in the sewers every day, after a month, your brain will remove the perception of bad smell. You will no longer smell it. The same as if you are a coroner and you open corpses. Therefore, for the Nazis, going to the death camps was like working in an office. If your brain is continuously exposed to a poison, the brain cancels the harmful perception of it and stops sending danger signals. To nullify a fear, you have to expose yourself to the cloaca long enough to stop smelling it and be free. This is something universal.
So when you're anxious, the last thing to do is run away. Yes, you have to openly expose yourself to that source of irrational fear and the fear will go away. If a person has panic attacks on the subway, do they have to go back there? To deal with it? You have to go and live those feelings of anguish until you make friends with them. Then, your mind loses its fear of them and the miracle arises: they disappear.
That means doing the opposite of what your body asks of you, it's like leaving your hand on fire when it is burning you. Your whole body and mind are asking you to do the opposite. And that's what you have to do in the face of dangers, except in the face of irrational fears. You say that most of your patients come to your office after having done acupuncture, yoga, sports, Tibetan bowls ... None of that works? The only thing that really works is that you lose your fear of fear. The other is avoidance that, in the end, gets you more into the problem. Why are we more addicted to something every day? Our society understands that discomfort is harmful, but all discomfort has a function and we must learn to tolerate them. This has always happened in the History of Humanity. But now the opposite happens.People become intolerant of any kind of emotional distress and are very vulnerable to addictions, which avoid that experience. Our society has become phobic of any kind of useful discomfort. How is the mind blocked? You have to learn to do it. It is another of the important teachings of the human being. You have to learn to ignore your mind countless times because it deceives you. Above all, when it tells you to avoid what you don't have to avoid. How do you do it? For example, saying mantras. It is a measure that all societies have used, from reciting the rosary to Hindu or Buddhist mantras. You repeat a few words to yourself so as not to hear your own mind. To get better you have to get worse first? Many times you do. My friends in Alcoholics Anonymous know that well. Hitting bottom is very good.It is a very fertile moment because the excuses are over and it is clear that self-deception does not work. For this reason, many people do not start the royal road until they have hit bottom. It's good to leave addicts alone and not help them hit rock bottom. One of my patients gave me a very good definition of therapy that is summarized in learning to suffer in order to stop suffering. You ask your patients to commit to not allowing negative emotions to run their lives. Is that possible to fulfill? We all have to learn to tame our negative emotions. This should be taught in school beginning in preschool. If you are hostage to your negative emotions, they will enslave you and ruin your life and even lead to suicide. What is the way they don't? You have to allow them to be. If you don't allow it,They are going to get huge and they are going to possess you. Have you had an anxiety crisis like the ones you deal with every day? Not so much, but I have suffered anxiety and I have had to learn to be my friend and not my enemy. What do your patients teach you? It's brutal. They have taught me in a very
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what is the true discipline of mind control. They were people who had reached moments of tremendous emotional loss and who could not leave the house or get up from the sofa because they were possessed by fear. Thanks to their personal effort they have turned into the opposite and now have a brutal emotional force. Seeing these cases has made me see more clearly how the mind works. For me it has been the best learning in the world. What has been the most critical moment in your life? Last year my father died after a long illness. When he died, I experienced the saddest moment of my life and, at the same time, one of the most beautiful. My family experienced a very special union. Nobody thought that anything bad had happened to my father. Dying is good. Dying is good when there is suffering from a disease,not always. Also when it is due to an accident? Yes. Man, dying is a chore. We do not understand who created the universe and we know practically nothing. By pure logic we must respect all natural facts that we do not understand. Death is a natural event that is necessary and even beautiful. Only a madman thinks that natural facts are not adequate. Death is as good as life. Who thinks otherwise? The majority of the population. Nobody thinks that death is as beautiful as a birth, because we are so crazy. Thinking that death is bad is like thinking that the sky should be fuchsia. It would be terrible. Death is as natural a fact as the sky being blue.We do not understand who created the universe and we know practically nothing. By pure logic we must respect all natural facts that we do not understand. Death is a natural event that is necessary and even beautiful. Only a madman thinks that natural facts are not adequate. Death is as good as life. Who thinks otherwise? The majority of the population. Nobody thinks that death is as beautiful as a birth, because we are so crazy. Thinking that death is bad is like thinking that the sky should be fuchsia. It would be terrible. Death is as natural a fact as the sky being blue.We do not understand who created the universe and we know practically nothing. By pure logic we must respect all natural facts that we do not understand. Death is a natural event that is necessary and even beautiful. Only a madman thinks that natural facts are not adequate. Death is as good as life. Who thinks otherwise? The majority of the population. Nobody thinks that death is as beautiful as a birth, because we are so crazy. Thinking that death is bad is like thinking that the sky should be fuchsia. It would be terrible. Death is as natural a fact as the sky being blue.Death is a natural event that is necessary and even beautiful. Only a madman thinks that natural facts are not adequate. Death is as good as life. Who thinks otherwise? The majority of the population. Nobody thinks that death is as beautiful as a birth, because we are so crazy. Thinking that death is bad is like thinking that the sky should be fuchsia. It would be terrible. Death is as natural a fact as the sky being blue.Death is a natural event that is necessary and even beautiful. Only a madman thinks that natural facts are not adequate. Death is as good as life. Who thinks otherwise? The majority of the population. Nobody thinks that death is as beautiful as a birth, because we are so crazy. Thinking that death is bad is like thinking that the sky should be fuchsia. It would be terrible. Death is as natural a fact as the sky being blue.Thinking that death is bad is like thinking that the sky should be fuchsia. It would be terrible. Death is as natural a fact as the sky being blue.Thinking that death is bad is like thinking that the sky should be fuchsia. It would be terrible. Death is as natural a fact as the sky being blue.
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