In "Sans Rendez-vous" Catherine Blanc responds to Adam, a listener born without a right leg and blocked by his handicap when it comes to meeting new people.

For the sex therapist and psychoanalyst, he must stop dating apps and focus on real-life encounters, where disability is more easily overlooked. 

Finding a soul mate is difficult, but it can be even more so for people with disabilities.

In any case, this is what Adam, 20, feels, a listener born without a straight leg who, although registered on dating apps, almost never manages to take the plunge.

A blockage due to his handicap: he is "afraid that the person will judge [him]".

In "Sans Rendez-vous", the sexologist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc advises her to privilege meetings in real life.

Indeed, this makes it easier to overcome the handicap and to bring into play other elements in the seduction.

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Adam's question, 20

I have a prosthetic leg, I was born without a right leg, and I have a really hard time meeting girls because of it.

I signed up on dating apps but I never get to meet because I'm afraid that the person will judge me.

Do you have any advice ? 

Catherine Blanc's response

You can imagine that even when you have two legs, things are complicated to find your place in society, because you constantly evaluate yourself in relation to others. So obviously, when you have a visible handicap, with all that that attracts curiosity or on the contrary exaggerated compassion, it is difficult to feel like a man capable of seducing. But often people who are disabled are also incredibly resilient, because they are quickly challenged in a way that is very supported by society. 

Especially since in our current society, where meetings are done via applications, the thing is not necessarily easier.

In real life when you meet people, you love them for who they are and you ignore the disability.

But on a screen, where we tend to fantasize more, it becomes much more complicated.

I have worked several times with people who had a disability and it takes a lot of strength to be able to say that one is suitable [for seduction].

The distance is not the most appropriate because the presence makes it possible to see that you are capable anyway, and this can become particularly touching.

Obviously, not everyone will be affected by this force.

But the goal is not to please everyone, since that is not possible anyway.

So Adam should avoid dating apps?

It's difficult, but I actually think that the best is to be able to meet people, to see them evolve.

Otherwise, he must specify his disability on the dating app, while indicating that he is quite capable of doing such and such.

Does Adam have to do some work on him to regain his self-confidence?

Yes, he can do a job. But this one is not necessarily psychological. It can consist of proving your competence in everyday life, to have a strong sense of yourself. But he must keep in mind that often, the contempt or the difficulty of committing for a woman in front of a man like that, is a narcissistic idea of ​​oneself in the eyes of the company. So Adam has to realize that this is the difficulty so that he can get past it.