“He who is entrusted with the offer will not be asked for money.”
A dreamy phrase that was enough to spark controversy on social media, as fire spreads in the fragile home furniture, as if it was the spark that the hell of controversy awaits to erupt between Egyptians, there is no difference between married, divorced, single and spinster.
A father of a bride wrote this phrase recently, and recorded it for his daughter’s groom in the document of the list of movables, which the fathers used to write in order to surprise the groom with it minutes before the marriage contract.
Frequent surprise
The groom usually prepares himself for the repeated surprise in all the weddings he has witnessed before, to refuse to sign, citing its unreality, so he turns the official while collecting his notebook with regret.
The list is a document of one or more papers that includes all the purchases of the newlyweds, signed by the groom individually before the marriage contract, and sometimes it includes more than the actual movables, in anticipation of a decrease in the value of these movables in the future.
Many are reluctant to go to the Ma'zoun due to convictions related to anxiety about the failure of the marriage and bearing the consequences of divorce (Expressionism - Al-Jazeera)
Repeated scenario
Incidents happen at the moment the groom refuses to sign, and the scenario is always repeated, either with clashes with white weapons and sticks between the families of the newlyweds in the villages of the Delta, or with firearms in the villages of Upper Egypt, or with insults and insults in the capitals of the governorates and Cairo.
And sometimes the differences reach the collapse of the marriage project before it begins, and sometimes the clashes calm down with the intervention of a wise counselor who calms the two parties, and reconciles the relationship between them, defusing the differences, and proposing a compromise solution by reducing the value of the list, or deleting some of the evidence in it from what is not there, so that the ululations erupt again The authorized person prays in the books of the Qur’an (the contract of the Qur’an).
Despite the agreement on the list of movables, it does not pay for divorce, which has risen in Egypt to a frightening degree, according to official statistics, which confirmed that Egypt is at the top of the list of countries with the highest rates of divorce annually.
The failure of marital relations frightened the fathers for the future of their daughters, and the “list” became a written guarantee (Expressionism - Al-Jazeera)
Divorce every two minutes
Statistics from the Central Agency for Public Mobilization and Statistics last year revealed that marriages during 2019 were 927,000, compared to 870,000 in 2018, revealing an increase of about 40,000 marriages, at 106 marriages every hour.
There were 225 thousand divorce cases in 2019 compared to 201 thousand cases in 2018, with one divorce every two minutes and 20 seconds.
sarcastics and fans
In the heated debate on social networking sites, users' interactions varied between a fan of the father's behavior that breaks customs and traditions in favor of what is "good and lasting", and a mockery of the father's behavior and a critic of "missing the right of his daughter."
In their posts about the empty list, critics attached another picture of children sitting on the steps of the family court waiting for their justice and their mother;
Indicative of the painful reality that occurs after the divorce.
Away from the dialogue of the list and the late, they write or not.. If someone is a buyer at all and is not inside Ali, what will he fear in need from countries?
— Aynour.
(@aynourehab) June 7, 2021
Family relations specialists believe that it did not prevent the occurrence of divorce and the loss of the rights of wives, but it is necessary - according to their opinion - to ensure the minimum material rights of the wife, while publications of young men and girls confirmed that the list is one of the reasons for reluctance to marry and the high rates of spinsterhood and divorce after marriage.
Well, I tell you about the need for girls to die and get married, and young men also die and get married, but the issue of the list and these arguments are customs and traditions, not more.
— Yasser 🇾🇪🇾🇪🇾🇪 (@Yasser02023727) June 7, 2021
The sword on the neck of the husband
The slate is a sword hanging over the husband's neck, in the opinion of critics;
The wife can accuse him of squandering her while she is in his own right, according to facts witnessed by the Egyptian courts, and it is also the first case filed in the courts by the divorced woman against her ex-husband on charges of squandering movables, out of spite that she sometimes remains in her possession, and in this case the husband only survives the skills of a lawyer versed.
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— basma bedir (@doc_nor) June 5, 2021
I am all a people and the expense of pleasure is another com...I know someone who is married for 3 months and then traveled for a year and a half and during this time they differed and he divorced her, I took the stipend and the dowry and instead of wasting furniture that exceeded 200 thousand pounds... And also a pleasure expense for 3 months 20 thousand pounds 😎.
In Al-Sa'idi like this #Nahal_Webra https://t.co/BmiIwqL6ff
— Ehab El Refaey (@lo_ehab) June 7, 2021
I met a young man who obtained German citizenship in Egypt now for a visit. He studied the status of the Egyptian husband in law. He said a simple sentence, every young man who enters the Egyptian marriage system, enters it on the grounds that he is a criminal who has no eligibility or rights, and they describe (his condition as a criminal) by guaranteeing the right of the Egyptian wife, which we must preserve. On it, the rights of the criminal in Germany are higher pic.twitter.com/R89p1TLBZB
— Amjad Saleh Qutb (@amgadsalh) June 6, 2021
Well, I tell you about the need for girls to die and get married, and young men also die and get married, but the issue of the list and these arguments are customs and traditions, not more.
— Yasser 🇾🇪🇾🇪🇾🇪 (@Yasser02023727) June 7, 2021
The former head of the Information Center gets excited on the air: We hear that the wife guarantees her right to the list if she is divorced, and the man has no right if the woman is taken off..and sets off a surprise!# Lamees_Al-Hadidi# Final_word#ON @lameesh pic.twitter.com/E7Ln4a5qed
— A final word with Lamis Al Hadidi (@KelmaAkhira) June 7, 2021
Rights and Duties
The specialist in family relations, Hala Samir, said that the legal origin is that the wife should have a full dowry, but the custom in Egypt is to write a “list of furniture” (furniture and movables) instead of the dowry, which makes it a right for the wife.
And with her sympathy with the writer of the sentence "He who is entrusted with the offer does not ask for money," she told Al Jazeera Net that it is a slogan that "should not be deceived as a dreamer's slogan", with which a legitimate right is lost, stressing that "legal rulings are not subject to emotions, and" God Almighty is Who legislated contracts and their clauses to preserve rights among people.
She indicated that one of the evidences of trust is that the trustee hasten to write down what he owes himself, citing witnesses, and these rights are forfeited only by acquittal or performance, whether during or after marriage by divorce or death.
Hala Samir denied the contradiction between being a trustworthy husband over honor and money and guaranteeing the wife's rights;
Because “the Sharia is the one who called for preserving honor and saving money, and they are among the five necessities for preserving religion.”
She stressed that the guardian may not abandon the wife, whether he is a father or a brother, or neglect her right, with the need not to exaggerate in taking guarantees that the husband can bear beyond his capacity, pointing out that most of the problems witnessed by the courts between former spouses are caused by either excessive guarantee of rights or neglect. In which.
List or full dowry
She explained that the husband has the right to refuse to sign the list, but in return he must give the wife a full dowry.
The former Minister of Awqaf, Mustafa Talaat Afifi, confirmed that the list is new, and did not exist in the early eras of Islam, as well as the issue of the backside.
He pointed out that the ease of a woman’s dowry is evidence of the blessing of marrying her, according to the noble Prophet’s hadith, and what happened before that is that the man gives the woman a dowry less or more, and prepares the marital home in what is easy without costing the woman or her guardian anything of this And there was no such thing as a dowry or movable list, and marriage was easy for everyone, whether the husband was poor or rich.
Afifi criticized society's tendency to complicate marriage;
This caused an increase in the age of marriage between young men and girls, the prevalence of spinsterhood, and the spread of haram when the halal door was closed.
The former Minister of Awqaf referred to the exaggeration of the dowries, especially the dowry, and the exaggeration in the lists of movables, which have become in the thousands, and sometimes contain things that do not exist, but people resort to them with the aim of hindering and humiliating the husband if he thinks of divorce or marriage of this woman Other than that, especially since the list of furniture is a civil right, according to which the wife can imprison the husband if she claims that he squandered her, and the incidents related to this subject turn her head in shame, as he put it.
The former minister stressed the failure of these means to preserve the family, as evidenced by the spread of divorce incidents on the widest scale, and the alternative in “good choice based on the religion of God Almighty alone” is facilitating dowries, simplifying marriage procedures and staying away from everything that would complicate the lawful.