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Mother's Day has never played a major role in Lilli Hollunder's life.
Sure, as a child, she and her sister painted a picture for their mother, but that's about it.
That has now changed, the actress became a mother herself for the first time exactly a year ago.
Since then, the 35-year-old and her husband, ex-professional footballer René Adler, have been the proud parents of Casper and have been pushing him around Hamburg in their children's cart.
However, the path to becoming parents turned out to be more difficult than expected: the desire to have children could not be implemented immediately.
Hollunder desperately wanted a girl, and the news that she was going to be a boy at first gave her a pang.
What then followed were postpartum depression, a changed body, expectations of yourself as a young mother and new challenges in the relationship.
Lilli Hollunder actually wanted to be the mother of a daughter - now she can no longer imagine life without Casper
Source: Instagram / Lilli Hollunder
In her book “Pregnant!
In the center of my universe it gets tight ”.
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"In the meantime, being a mother is a lot of fun for me - more than I thought and especially when the nights are good," says Hollunder and laughs. Nevertheless, the time up to now has also been an ordeal for their relationship: “I think it's easier when you have a regular distribution of roles. It's different with us. ”Six weeks after the birth, she started working again, finished her book, recorded and shot podcasts.
The competition for office hours from home was great for her and René. “It was important to me to pursue my own projects and get on with my life. After all, as a woman, I want to remain independent. I was probably shaped a bit as a child of divorce. ”Her new life as a mother is a challenge, on the one hand because the couple works as a freelancer and they therefore have to organize themselves well in everyday life. On the other hand, because Lilli Hollunder tries to manage the balancing act - like many other women - between the roles of mother, partner, friend, businesswoman and old Lilli.
“Sometimes we grapple with each other because there is no man-woman time together to just spend a couple of hours alone again.
To build dream castles and to look back on beautiful moments together. ”A situation that she speaks openly about and does not pretend that everything is going perfectly.
That was also the intention behind her book: enlightenment, relief and at the same time encouragement.
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"Once you start to tell that everything is not going well, others join in too and you realize: Hey, I'm not alone with my topics." This makes her come across as authentic.
A kind of which Lilli Hollunder knows that it does not “make her a popular figure for the nation,” as she says.
She therefore doesn't believe in artificial perfectionism on social media channels.
Children's birthdays on Instagram often seem to her as if the flawless thing is in the foreground and not the child themselves. "In addition, everything looks the same: Everyone has perfect cakes and number balloons suitable for the child's age." It should be different with her today. Casper also gets a cake, but it doesn't have to look flawless, and flowers are placed around his plate, a tradition in her family. “We have restricted gifts: in the family we only give each other what we really need.” Her greatest gift is to celebrate the day with René and the in-laws. "It will be touching and emotional for me - and that it is also Mother's Day is somehow nice again."