Is it normal that we re-evaluate our marriage?
Is it possible after some time that we feel that we are not with the right person?
Are we with the right person?
The question that is repeated all the time: Is this the life I wanted?
Is this pair I really wanted?
It is wrong that all of these questions remain unanswered, and it is imperative to search for an answer.
In their book The Secrets of Great Marriages, Linda and Charlie Bloom - marital relations experts, who have many weekly interviews on many television channels, and have more than one book in common since their marriage in 1972 - answered doubts about our success in choosing a husband or wife, and Linda took a couple story A request she consulted with a form to answer.
Disputes should not revolve around who is right (social media)
After a year of marriage, Tammy was suspicious;
Was her choice right?
Especially since she only knew her husband 7 months before marriage, and did her thoughts regarding her age, who was over 36 years old, be the reason for her acceptance of the marriage proposal, without considering the rest of the details?
Is her husband really the person she wants to spend the rest of her life with?
Daniel's husband was a model of the gentle, loving man, and he didn't do anything we could blame him for, but nevertheless Tammy still saw that there was something wrong with it, and it is true that she did not tell anyone about her doubts, but she was always thinking about her imaginary companion, the one who will never feel bored. With him.
The family therapist's advice was for Tommy to write, which she did, as she transferred all her thoughts from Daniel to her diary, narrated the situations that had occurred and her expectations about her desire for how she might fall, her desires, ideas and aspirations in the relationship with the husband, and Tommy wrote everything, then She found that Daniel was not as bad as she had seen it, but she was afraid of commitment, even if it was just the word "I love you."
Rather than waiting for what was to happen by thinking, Tommy realized that she did not have all the answers, that perfection does not exist in relationships, and that the perfection she seeks in her marital relationship will not come from her husband only, but also from her.
In an article by John Rampton, a relationship consultant - published by the magazine "Inc" - he put 16 signs to reveal that your choice of your partner is correct, and we chose from them the top 10 signs, which can be measured to ensure the correctness of your choices.
Spouses should participate in activities that make them cheerful and fun (Getty Images)
You are enjoying your time together
Doing together activities that give you joy and fun, or even seriousness and discussion, and share watching a movie, or listen to the same music, or write plans for your home for the next feast, and cook together new food, these moments full of love and full of sharing spirit;
It will be the first sign that tells you that your choice was correct.
Spend some time away
It does not mean that you are married to be trapped in one life that does not change all the time, you have the right to have solo time, and this is for both spouses, where they meet friends, go out alone, go to the cinema, or breathe the air of the back garden with a cup of coffee in private, without any Presumed arguments.
Pay attention to what the other wants
Having a partner who notices what you want, appreciates what you need, and gives you, at the right time, is one of the most reliable signs of a suitable choice.
The first to turn to
It is what we call "the bond" in the vernacular;
Good events often tell friends, but when a bad event comes into our minds we expect that they will be able to understand and contain?
If your answer was that this person was your chosen one to share your life with you, then know that your choice was correct.
Mutual trust
Confidence is one of the biggest signs of choosing a successful life partner.
Physical attraction
Physical attraction is a strong sign of love, and a strong expression of it, and the greater the attraction, the more it is an indication of your correct choice.
Participation in household affairs increases the bonds of the relationship between spouses (pixels)
You are not expected to change overnight
It is nice to change for the sake of our husbands and wives, but we must accept that no one is perfect, and that the best thing a person can offer their partner is not to let them feel guilty, accept them as they are, and then strive together for the better.
Disagreements are fruitful, not destructive
Likewise, ideal couples have disagreements between them, but the difference is that their differences do not destroy their lives afterwards, nor do they leave traces that would erase all beauty, and disagreements should not revolve around who is right, but revolve around discussion, without verbal or physical interference.
Debate and common ground are the goal of their lives together.
The ability to make someone laugh
To be able to add joy to your partner, and to relieve him of his misfortunes, this is an important feature in a life partner, if you find it, then you have made a good choice.
Feel free to ask for help
Asking for help or advice from the husband does not reduce either of them, on the contrary, this increases the bonds of the relationship between them.