Maëlle, a listener from Europe 1, gave birth to a baby two months ago.
But his five-year-old is extremely jealous.
How to appease the situation in the siblings?
A psychotherapist gives her advice at the microphone of the program Sans rendez-vous.
"I had a second child two months ago, but my oldest five is horribly jealous."
Maëlle, a listener from Europe 1, confided in "Sans rendez-vous" on the difficulties she is currently encountering at home.
"It's starting to be very complicated for me to manage, it's hell," admits the mother.
And for good reason: his eldest has a chain of whims, wets the bed at night and even threw toys at his little brother's face.
This situation is encountered by many families when a new baby arrives.
So how do you manage?
How to ease tensions within siblings?
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According to psychotherapist Isabelle Filliozat, in a case like this, the child feels rejected and, therefore, he "needs even more to feel the affection, the love of his parent".
Because "when you are five years old and we were all alone with mum and dad", explains the specialist, "and all of a sudden there is an intruder who arrives and drains mum's attention, the face attachment, it can be extremely difficult ".
"A smile, a kiss or a wink"
Rather than saying to your child "I am not taking care of you there, I am taking care of the baby, for you, it will be soon", Isabelle Filliozat advises, as soon as we take care of her baby, to look at the older one and "give him a smile, a kiss or a wink".
One way to give him "a little signal" to show him "that he exists for you, that he is important to you and that you love him".
This will help counter this feeling of rejection and reassure your child.