In "Sans Rendez-vous", the sex therapist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc responds to Ingrid, a listener who wonders if there is a good frequency to have in sexual relations.

But for the specialist, we make love with his or her partner when it suits best.

>> Once a day, a week, a month ... The frequency of intercourse varies within each couple, according to the needs and desires of each.

But is there a "right frequency" to have sex with?

That's what Ingrid wonders, a listener who may feel the need for sex twice a day at times, and go without sex for a week at others.

A question that is not really one according to the sexologist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc, who reminds us that we make love with our partner at the frequency that suits best. 

Ingrid's question

Sometimes I have sex twice a day, but at times I can also go without for more than a week ... So I wonder how often should we have sex?

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Catherine Blanc's response

We make love when we want!

There are times when our libido is particularly aroused. 

Is there an average? 

It depends, I don't even know how old Ingrid is.

But if we take all ages into account, we should be around once a week.

These are figures with a wet finger, it would be necessary to delve into real studies.

Moreover, are there any studies that highlight a sexual frequency, a need, to have a balanced life?  

It is not a need in the vital sense of the term, but sexuality allows you to express yourself, to reassure yourself about your value for the other.

But it is also an opportunity to expel tension.

The need exists, but it is difficult to define: is it a need for oneself, to free oneself from tensions, to prove our competence, or even because we feel the need to be reassured?

Behind this idea of ​​need, there are therefore very narcissistic things.

And in the middle of all this, there is a relationship that exists, that lives, that is written ... We should also be much more interested in the pleasure that we derive from it than in the need as such. .

If we want to enjoy together, we can have sex once, twice or even three times a day.

Does the coronavirus crisis have an impact on our libido? 

Indeed this can play a role.

With the lockdown and curfew, some, who tend to be depressed or depressed, may have taken on alternatives like alcohol, food, or sex.

But it is very complicated to be creative when you walk in circles in the same room, and often a gap within the couple appears.