Friday, in "Without appointment", a listener asked the sexologist Catherine Blanc if it was normal to prefer to multiply the sexual experiences rather than to seek the stability of the couple.

For our specialist, this kind of relationship does not exclude nice encounters, while the important thing is to be in harmony with yourself. 

Not everyone is looking for true love.

If the majority of men and women aspire to form a couple and why not to form a home with their partner, some prefer to multiply the links, more attracted by the variety of experiences than by monogamy within the couple.

This is the case of a listener from Europe 1, who, in

Sans rendez-vous

, asks sex therapist Catherine Blanc if her behavior is normal. 

The question 

Do you find it abnormal to prefer the variety of sexual relations, the pleasure of multiplying new experiences and the richness of their originality to the couple relationship? 

Catherine Blanc's response 

Is this abnormal?

This does not concern me.

I do not find anything abnormal insofar as it is the respect of oneself and its impulses.

If each relationship offers its share of quality and richness, perhaps as such, our listener is a great traveler who needs to be nourished by new experiences.

It is a choice that is put forward and which can be very nice with a real relational quality, but which saves the building of a relationship. 

The fear of being a parent? 

Of course we can say to ourselves that it is quite poor because it is simply for sexuality, but at the same time, it is not sure.

Maybe this person likes a quality of relationship, even if it is without a future in the construction. 

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There are people who will not experience life together, who will not seek to be a parent, and that suits them.

Is this hiding something?

Perhaps in this case, one has difficulty making room for the other near oneself, that one has difficulty being constrained by the other which forces a lot of self-denial.

It can also make it possible to save the fear of fatherhood or motherhood. 

"Knowing how to do it alone when others cannot live alone"

But we must not forget that in a couple, we can vary the pleasures and we evolve.

Sometimes things will get thinner and we will try to re-fuel them so that they sparkle again.

Most of us get into a relationship and build a life together.

We are in the security of these links, and what will be complicated will be to make something new in the security of these links.

Conversely, there are people who will not invest in it and will live quite a lonely life with occasional sharing. 

We can consider that it is at least a skill: knowing how to do alone when others do not know how to live alone.

Anyway, our auditor is not abnormal.

One can wonder about the why of the how, but if this person is good, that it is well and that it rejoices in its pleasure.