In "Sans Rendez-vous", Catherine Blanc responds to Rachel, 42, who is surprised to now prefer cunnilingus to penetration.

The sexologist and psychoanalyst brings up several avenues to explain this evolution, from a change of partner, to sexual maturity. 

>> Often mistakenly considered as foreplay, oral sex is sex in its own right.

And as such they are a source of enjoyment and pleasure, sometimes even to the point of supplanting that caused by penetration.

This is what happens to Rachel, 42, who realizes as time goes by preferring cunnilingus to the latter.

Astonished at such a change, she wonders.

In "Sans Rendez-vous" Catherine Blanc, sexologist and psychoanalyst evokes several possibilities to answer this question, from a change of partner to sexual maturity. 

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Rachel's question, 42

I realize over time that I take much more pleasure with cunnilingus rather than real sex.

How is it possible ? 

Catherine Blanc's response

First of all, cunnilingus is a sexual act.

We are not in the process of telling each other, talking to each other, we are really having sex.

In general, to have pleasure, there is not necessarily a need for penetration.

This is valid both for women, but also for men.

Here Rachel evokes a change of preference which can be linked to several things: a change of relationship and the discovery of a "new" cunnilingus made by this partner, a difficulty in lubrication which makes penetration painful, or even menopause. .. But maybe also because there was a time when she wanted to be penetrated in order to be a mother, but at 42 years old she no longer has this project.

From then on, Rachel may want something that will evoke her pleasure, without necessarily being part of it.

But there is also the possibility that the penetrations never lead to something enjoyable.

Suddenly Rachel prefers cunnilingus to penetration. 

Is 42 years old the age of sexual maturity?

Maybe Rachel is freer in her body? 

Yes, because there are young women who don't like cunnilingus.

Not because it's not pleasant, but because it's a moment when we are seen, where we offer ourselves and we let ourselves be.

We enjoy without being protected by the fact that the partner is in his business and not necessarily looking at you.

And often, it takes more maturity to dare to do that. 

Which implies that it is quite possible for a woman to have a fulfilling sexuality only with cunnilingus, but it is specific to each one.