In "Sans Rendez-vous", the sex therapist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc responds to Sandra.

This listener thinks that men no longer dare to take the first step since the #MeToo movement, a situation she deplores because she was not "brought up" like that "and prefers that they take the lead. 

>> One thing is certain, the #MeToo wave has profoundly changed our society.

To the point that men are now reluctant to take the first step?

In any case, it is the impression that Sandra has, an auditor who deplores this situation.

Not having been "brought up like that", she prefers that it is the men who take the lead.

For the sex therapist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc, this discomfort is quite normal, since Sandra must reveal her desire to get what she wants.

In "Sans Rendez-vous", the specialist therefore advises her "to broaden her field of possibilities" and not to wait for a man to come and flirt with her.

Sandra's question 

Since #MeToo, I have the impression that men no longer want to take the first step.

I was not brought up like that, I prefer it when it is they who take the lead.

What do you think ?

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Catherine Blanc's response

The #MeToo wave has forced women to expose themselves in their desire.

Until now we have been in a system where the man proposes and the woman disposes.

There were proposals that were possibly refused or on the contrary accepted.

But now this woman, here Sandra, has to expose herself.

She must therefore reveal herself without really knowing who might want her in return.

And this is not necessarily simple, since a woman who was too desiring was often considered too open.

They were therefore discreet. 

But don't men really dare to take the first step anymore as Sandra says? 

In reality, things are not changing.

Men will continue to flirt with women and express themselves according to their personal impulse.

However, there are some women who will no longer take advantage of it because, anyway, they will look suspicious of these men.

The latter will perceive mistrust and suddenly stay away while waiting for the green light from the lady, when others will continue to be benevolent.

For their part, the perverts are still.

The nature of men therefore does not change and it is always up to women to ensure their own safety. 

Is a pre- # MeToo compliment today experienced as a form of harassment? 

It is a debate that deserves much more than the time of the chronicle, because we are to the millimeter.

A compliment is not harassment.

However, depending on who says it, how, and above all who receives it, this can change.

That is to say that if I am someone who is afraid of men, a "you are beautiful" can refer to a fear and make me think of an aggression. 

The whole difficulty lies in the fact that the problem does not lie so much in the subject as in what the subject means.

There is the person who speaks and the one who receives it, it is extremely complex. 

That Sandra was brought up like that, we can hear it, but she cannot spend her time suffering on the pretext of an education.

It is also up to her to widen the range of her possibilities if she wants to be seen as being wanted and desiring and desirable and desiring.

But just because you're educated in a certain way doesn't mean you can't move your lines. 

It was important that we denounce things that were not acceptable with #MeToo, just as it was important that men learn that we cannot do everything and everything, but also that women understand although they have a veto right.

That being said, it is up to both sexes to find their freedom of movement.

There is no question of castrating men, nor of women finding themselves in a position to judge the masculine.