In "Sans Rendez-vous", the sex therapist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc advises Martin, an auditor whose partner "takes it wrong" to give blowjobs.

But the latter does not know how to approach the subject without upsetting her.

For the specialist, he must guide his girlfriend.

>> This is a foreplay that is supposed to be enjoyable and publicized by the adult film industry.

However, when Martin's girlfriend gives him a blowjob, it is not at all pleasant.

This listener even evokes some pain.

But he doesn't know how to approach the matter without upsetting his partner.

In "Sans Rendez-vous", the sex therapist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc gives her advice and considers that humor is a good ally in this situation.

According to the specialist, Martin must also guide his partner to turn the conversation towards pleasure, and not pain. 

Martin's question

My girlfriend gives me regular blowjobs but she does it very badly since it is borderline painful.

I think she must put her teeth ... How can I tell her without offending her? 

Catherine Blanc's response 

Martin's question is interesting, since it comes down to asking why undergo something that you don't like?

Especially if it is not pleasant for him, it is of no interest.

Since fellatio is, for a woman, exciting only the fact of arousing.

So you might as well avoid it or say 'honey, this is not a sandwich' if she actually goes with her teeth. 

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Martin talks about his girlfriend's teeth, but is that really the problem? 

He didn't mention dental deformity, so I don't think it came from that side.

I think maybe she's awkward.

But it's very complicated to determine: does it really come from her?

Is it possible that it is Martin who is anxious about a fellatio?

And if both are true, it does something wrong right away.

So the best is to talk about it with humor.

She might be a little upset, but once again, you only get really upset when you leave things too long. 

She should be guided by telling her 'I like it more like this rather than that'.

It avoids addressing the notion of pain and instead focusing on what excites.

I believe that sexuality should remain funny and happy anyway.

It is not an assessment of our skills, we can be awkward from time to time. 

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When to tell him? 

I always find that talking about sex outside is the best way to talk about it between the pear and the cheese. 

But it's difficult to talk about it without the other taking it for a reproach, right? 

I think it comes from the fact that one puts too much to the test personally in a story that should be anecdotal.

Sexuality is not an assessment but an experience: there are wonderful things and missteps.