Hélène got wind of a 30-year-old family secret: her maternal grandfather is not the real father of one of her aunts and uncles.

At the microphone of "La Libre antenna" of Europe 1, Hélène wonders if it is up to her to reveal this secret to them, knowing that she is no longer in contact with them.

TESTIMONY

Hélène recently discovered an old family secret.

Before he died, his grandfather revealed to his eldest son that he was not the father of two of the siblings' children.

This uncle kept it a secret for thirty years.

Today, Hélène and her mother know about it and wonder if they should reveal it to the children concerned, knowing that they are no longer in contact.

On "La Libre antenna" in Europe 1, Hélène asks Sabine Marin for advice: should she reveal this secret to them?

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“I recently learned of a family secret that concerns my mom's family. It doesn't concern my mom directly, but one of her brothers and one of her sisters. They are a family of eight children. before his death my grandfather asked to speak to his eldest son. Coming out of the room my uncle was livid and said: 'He said something to me, I will tell you someday.'

That was at least thirty years ago, I'm 46 now and a teenager then. 

During these thirty years, the siblings called my uncle several times to ask him what had been said.

He kept it a secret for thirty years.

Very recently, he would have revealed it to a cousin of my mother whom I do not know.

This cousin repeated it to my mother who told me.

A son and a daughter of the siblings would have another father.

I don't believe my grandfather said who the father was.

It is a family that communicates poorly.

They are not aware that their father is not their father. 

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I don't feel legitimate to tell them

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In this sibling of eight, there are very few people I still see.

It is a sibling that has been broken up.

This uncle and aunt, I haven't seen them for a very long time.

Before, when we talked about this secret, I often said that it was sure that this aunt was not my grandfather's daughter.

It seemed obvious to me because she is a little different, not physically, but in her way of being and her temperament. 

I don't see this uncle anymore, but I have some distant news, and the news is not good.

He is someone who is mentally ill.

He was very close to my grandmother, he was still living with her at 30 years old.

He had children who must be in their early twenties.

I don't know them, but they are children who have had great difficulties, great social phobias.

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What's complicated is that my mother knows the story through her cousin, but her brother still hasn't told her directly.

She's not supposed to know.

She doesn't even dare to tell her brother about it.

I have the impression that nothing is going to be said.

My mom told me that she had considered doing something, but one of her sisters told her not to say anything so as not to mess up the family.

I don't feel legitimate to tell them because I don't know them much.

But at the same time, I know it, so I feel like I hold this secret in some way.

It is true that it happens late.

If we tell them today, I don't think they have a way of knowing their real father or even knowing who he is.

I hope they can talk about it.

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