In "Sans Rendez-vous", the sex therapist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc responds to Audrey, an auditor who has a crush on her baker without daring to take the first step.

Instead of waiting for a sign from this man for perhaps a long time, the specialist advises him to take the lead.

>> Taking the first step can be a tricky step for some people.

It takes courage, a bit of daring and putting aside the fear of being refused.

A situation that is all the more delicate when the person we like shares our daily life.

This is a bit like the situation in which Audrey finds herself, an auditor who has a crush on her baker but who does not dare to take the first step.

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sexologist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc in "Sans Rendez-vous", on Europe 1.  

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Audrey's question

"I like my baker very much, but I don't dare take the first step, I don't know how to approach him. He doesn't seem to want to take the first step either, how do I resolve the situation?"

Catherine Blanc's response 

Audrey's real question is about a person who pleases her, but who doesn't take the first step when she feels she likes him.

Which brings us back to a question dealt with previously: must man still take the first step?

But in this specific case, taking the first step in the bakery with other customers, maybe a little embarrassing, right?

Indeed, but this baker has schedules, he comes in or leaves his shop at some point.

But maybe we need to send him a little note when buying bread ... 

Initiate a discussion with a stranger is complicated,

let alone has

in times of health crisis with the mask, physical distancing ...

Either way, it's complicated.

And again, it points to the fact that for ages women did not express anything of their own desires.

But obviously this baker is not going to start flirting with his client, he would then expose himself to a delicate situation.

He's kind of stuck in his job.

In this situation, everyone has one position: the man is a baker and Audrey is a customer.

To achieve something, you have to make these positions move, because at some point, she can't just wait for a possible gesture from this man and buy the whole bakery.

Maybe Audrey should try contacting him at some other time, or via social media?

Yes why not.

This way she will be able to come into contact with him in another context.

But its main difficulty is that it does not take the first step.

However, he is the less well placed of the two to initiate a conversation.

It's up to Audrey to open up the possibility of being accessible.

But there is also the fear of seeing a refusal

You know, we all have this fear.

But it's only the hardware rake that hurts.

Audrey must try her luck!

And if that doesn't work, we don't die!