In "Sans Rendez-vous", the sex therapist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc is interested in the threesome.
A fantasy present "in each of us in a more or less conscious way", which is explained in large part because it brings into play the ego of a man or a woman wanting to be in the center of the Warning.
>> It's a fantasy shared by many people: the threesome. Whether it's for a man or a woman, being in the center of attention has something appealing that fuels a feeling of power in particular. In any case, this is one of the explanations put forward by Catherine Blanc, sexologist and psychoanalyst, to justify the frequency of this fantasy. In "Sans Rendez-Vous" Thursday, the specialist also explains that this idea refers to childhood.
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Making love in a threesome is a fantasy present in each of us more or less consciously, because it refers to our ideal position.
That is, to be loved at the same time on both sides, like the child who wanted the love of his mother and father to be directed towards him.
This construction is carried over into sexuality with a very strong narcissistic feeling, since it gives the impression of being very strong, powerful, valued, loved twice as much and being the priority of two people.
Is it a strictly male fantasy?
No, women also have this fantasy for all the reasons mentioned above.
Still, one of the hypotheses behind the sometimes attractive side of the threesome is to be able to multiply the possibility of procreating, of transmitting one's genes.
But I also believe that it is a way of being pampered by two women, the child in the center of attention is therefore fulfilled since, in a way, his whole body is taken care of.
But there is also that sense of omnipotence that comes from the ability to be desired by two women, but also to satisfy them.
A narcissistically very promising fantasy, hence the fact that it is often found.
Can this weaken a couple who decide to embark on this new experience?
It's always difficult because a decision is always made by one and the other follows.
The first is more able to live this experience, while the other followed for love, for excitement ...
But beyond the choice, there is the reality of the competence to be able to live it.
If the idea is to be liked by two people, it is not necessarily the case of the 'number three' who can then have the feeling of a questioning of his own kind.
A dynamic that can
ultimately
lead
to a feeling of jealousy.