In "Sans Rendez-vous" on Europe 1, sexologist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc looks at physical appearance on Wednesday.
Can what I don't like about the other endanger a couple?
Should we be afraid to broach this subject with his / her partner, at the risk of offending?
With or without the mustache? Small physical changes within a couple are not always well experienced. What one wants to test at the hairdresser or barber will not always please the other, without necessarily daring to admit it. But can a change in appearance, however small, damage a relationship? Wednesday, at the microphone of
Sans Rendez-vous
, the health program of Europe 1, the sex therapist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc answers a listener who is embarrassed by her husband's new beard when she wants to kiss him.
Alexandra's question
"My husband has grown a beard. It stings me, when I kiss him, it annoys me when he thinks I don't want to kiss him anymore. What to do?"
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Catherine Blanc's response
"A beard is generally quite soft, provided of course that it is long enough. So it is rather a question here of asking the question of the relationship to Alexandra with this tickling, this inconvenience caused by the other. you don't like beards, you might not like that feeling, and in which case you just tell your husband. You don't run away from the kiss just because you don't like something. Suffice it to say that "We find that disturbing. But from the moment when she is silent, and the other believes that she no longer wants to kiss him, then it seems to me that the beard becomes the tree which hides the forest.
Can we talk about a larger problem within the couple?
The kiss is an intimacy, a shared tenderness.
Maybe this couple manages to have sexuality, but as luck would have it, the kiss is put aside, as if we needed to protect ourselves from this gesture, when it is possible to indulge to sexuality by feeling less involved in the relationship.
Often, the kiss betrays a greater implication than the coitus itself.
In this period of confinement, when barbers, hairdressers or sports halls are closed, can carelessness become a killer?
Indeed, we are in a moment of letting go and perhaps also letting go in the communication of couples.
We let the difficulties set in, and that damages the relationship.
You have to roll up your sleeves and have a little courage to tell the other what is a little disturbing, what does not suit me.
You have to learn to say things to each other if you want to be erotic and eroticize the relationship, get in tune with each other.
It's a compromise that you can easily find if you still love each other. "