Lille psychologist Jean-Luc Beaumont.

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L. Breton / M6

  • The period of confinement was fatal for many couples.

  • Dr Beaumont, shrink from "Married at first sight", offers a solution to try to avoid breakups.

  • He will upload an algorithm to test the compatibility and work on it.

I love you, neither do I.

Or the opposite.

If love has its reasons that reason ignores, it also has its limits.

Once past the blindness of the first few days, several months for the lucky ones, a couple can come up against incompatibilities that did not seem obvious at the beginning.

A particular context, the coronavirus for example, sometimes accelerates a process leading to an inevitable separation.

Inescapable, really?

Well not necessarily.

Doctor Jean-Luc Beaumont, Lille specialist of the couple and psychologist of the M6 ​​reality show “Married at first sight”, may well have the solution.

We're not going to make it a rule written in stone, but the days when couples last a lifetime are all the same.

Moreover, according to Jean-Luc Beaumont, psychologist specializing in relationship therapies, “I see more and more people separating, and this is nothing new.

Today, this concerns about two out of three couples, ”he says.

According to him, there are several reasons for this sad observation: “They do not have the necessary skills and also make less and less effort, in particular because of the applications which make it possible to find someone else quite easily. », Explains the psychologist.

The "Married at first sight" algorithm revisited

Add to this "culture of egoism and egocentrism" a small layer of health crisis, and it is the tragedy.

"During confinement, this mainly concerned couples with young children who had to endure their presence in a small place in addition to their work", continues Jean-Luc Beaumont, specifying all the same that some couples had taken the opportunity to strengthen their ties.

Moreover, after confinement, the psychologist did not see requests for consultations jump.

“I nevertheless noticed that the couples who came were younger,” he notes.

To avoid implosion, there is no miracle but a tool and work.

Jean-Luc Beaumont worked for the show “Married at first sight”.

With the other speakers, the task was to find compatibilities between the candidates in order to form the couples best able to function.

"I adapted the algorithm which will make it possible to determine marital compatibility according to many criteria to be fulfilled in an online questionnaire, such as values, desires, projects, sexuality", lists the psychologist.

The result, roughly speaking, shows that the more similar we are, the more compatible we are.

But, there is a but…

"No incompatibility is really crippling"

Because you will quickly get bored with your double, you need nuance, "the goal of a couple is also the exchange, to bring something to the other", assures Dr. Beaumont.

For him, no incompatibility is really crippling, except perhaps having totally opposite values.

“Love is a full-time job,” insists the psychologist.

You have to work to cultivate it as you maintain a garden for example ”.

For couples who feel the tide and who do not want to change boats, Jean-Luc Beaumont will make his magic algorithm available on a website called Better Love, within two to three weeks.

After the questionnaire and analysis stage, the site will offer advice to follow "to improve your relationship".

At worst, it works and in addition, it will be free for a period of two months.

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