What should be taught in college romance classes
Is love teachable?
Although there is no academic consensus on this proposition, the needs of college students who want to receive love education and improve their love abilities cannot be ignored.
Recently, China Youth School Media launched a questionnaire survey for 1,028 college students across the country.
The survey results show that 88.23% of college students support the establishment of love classes in universities.
Since then, related topics have also appeared on hot searches, causing heated discussions among many netizens.
Compared with the pioneering attempts of some colleges and universities to offer love classes a few years ago, there are now fewer comments accusing the colleges of “too wide-ranging” and “not doing business properly”.
The public has gradually reached a consensus on the purpose of university education: universities are not only a training ground for youth intelligence, but also an incubator to help them become more adult and socialized.
Like Harvard University's famous "Happiness Class", the essence of the love class is to guide students to cultivate the ability to harvest and manage happiness.
At a time when various PUA strike-up techniques are spreading, emotional fraud is emerging, and the divorce rate is rising, scientific and reasonable love education is particularly important.
Before going to university, heavy studies occupies the main energy of students, and the way to get along well with the opposite sex has become a "course to be taken."
When I was in college, I saw many situations where my inability to express emotions resulted in missed relationships, and my misunderstandings were deepened due to adversarial communication.
The love class teaches communication and expression skills, not to disrupt the natural development of relationships, but to help students identify emotional roadblocks, cultivate a positive attitude to deal with problems, and avoid getting stuck in a strange circle of thinking.
Compared with the PUA strike-up skills circulating in the society, the two also have an essential difference: PUA is a person who pretends to be not himself, and gains the trust of others through mental manipulation and deception; love classes should be taught on the basis of respecting the truth. How can people express their sincerity better.
In addition to helping students "get off the singles", college romance classes can also cultivate emotional management and empathy, so that students can learn to manage a good relationship.
Love relationships will not be absolutely rational. Depression, suicide and violent behaviors caused by emotions on college campuses are all emotional tragedies caused by emotional out-of-control.
Only by getting rid of the unconscious state of feelings, better managing one's emotions and perceiving the other's mind, can the feelings go further.
In addition to the teaching of "techniques", the more important task of the love class is actually to establish a positive outlook on love and improve self-cognition and judgment.
Although there is no fixed formula for love, each relationship has a different way of getting along, but the ideal state of affection should definitely not be what, and there should be a consensus.
For example, when the emotional relationship is full of negative factors such as taking, humiliating, degrading, deceiving, etc., you should say goodbye to the other party decisively instead of deceiving yourself and continuing to be patient.
In recent years, people have continued to promote strange love concepts under the banner of female morality, PUA, and emotional recovery.
It is worth noting that these false theories that teach women to materialize themselves and claim that emotions can be manipulated have many young fans.
This phenomenon not only reflects the real needs of young people who wish to solve emotional problems, but also exposes certain deficiencies in related education.
The establishment of a correct concept of love is precisely the weak area of traditional university education.
As Zhou Lian said in the book "Opening": Philosophy allows people to see who is talking nonsense.
Although the ideal college love class cannot guarantee that every student will be happy, it can at least cultivate students' judgment ability, so as not to panic when encountering emotional setbacks and be misled by some distorted views of love in society.
For a long time, romantic relationships have remained in the category of private discourse. In the field of public discourse, people mostly tacit and avoid talking.
In fact, this was originally normal interpersonal communication, and an in-depth discussion of the eternal motif of love can also make people no longer blind and superficial when facing emotions.
The setting of the college romance class can be said to be a desensitization to this topic, thereby shaping students' more open and calm love attitude.
Of course, recently a university has added a "female morality lesson" to traditional culture courses, and the case of teaching "female morality", "female appearance", "male superiority", "male superiority" and other content also reminds us: the teaching content and methods of university love courses must be scientific and reasonable. Let decadent and poisonous love concepts mislead students.
In this sense, colleges and universities need to plan and design as a whole. Don't let a good love class become a "sister-making class", and don't become a formality for teachers and students to collect credits.
Ren Guanqing Source: China Youth Daily